In society Males are supposed to be….. In control of situations Like competition and like to win Be aggressive Be dominant Take care of females Be forceful Be powerful Be unemotional Be strong

In society Females are supposed to be….. Emotional Polite and accommodating Passive Submissive Attentive to needs of others Nonaggressive Dependant Gentle Weak attractive

“Have you heard” Overhead - P.120 Michigan model

Abusive Relationships Can be: Emotionally abusive – name calling, put-downs, blaming, telling someone they are crazy public or private humiliation false accusations of flirting or infidelity threatening physical harm or sexual abuse, isolate from family and friends

Abusive Relationships Physically abusive – Hitting Slapping punching kicking pinching use of weapons

Abusive Relationships Sexually Abusive – Forcing another person to do something sexual they do not want to do, even if they have been dating for a long time Rape Any sexual activity that makes another person uncomfortable

Cycle of Abuse see overhead p. 122

Cycle of Abuse Stage one – Tension builds Abuser becomes edgy and tense Easily irritated Partner may feel scared or nervous and try to keep abuser happy

Abusive Relationships Stage 2 – Explosion Abuser becomes more aggressive and verbally or physically attacks their partner Partner may feel like he or she deserved the abuse and most likely will try to cover up

Abusive Relationships Stage 3 – The honeymoon The abuser attempts to keep the relationship together Promises it won’t happen again Give gifts Apologetic, passionate, romantic Partner believes that they can change abuser or be “good enough” so it won’t happen again

Abusive Relationships Cycle of abuse will continue unless professional help is gotten, no matter what abuser says during the honeymoon period

Warning signs P. 123 mml13