A Parent’s Story Myrna Medina Family Engagement Specialist, California Deafblind Services.

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A Parent’s Story Myrna Medina Family Engagement Specialist, California Deafblind Services

Purpose Professionals will gain awareness of the situations/concern/issues families are facing. Families will learn that their stories are important and their feelings matter, and be empowered to move forward. Professionals and families will learn that the key to success is supporting one another.

My family

More about my family Our dreams

My story: The journey begins

Emotions Emotions help us to adjust and go on with our lives. Emotions do not occur in any particular sequence or predictable stages. They vary from person to person in intensity as well as duration.

Examples of emotions/coping with grief Shock Denial Guilt Anger Blame Acceptance Hope Isolation Fear Bargaining Depression Grieving Process

More about the grieving process Finding the magic cure Early intervention services “The more the merrier”

Understanding the grieving process Emotions: Are natural and normal Are not experienced in any predictable order Recur during one’s life; often triggered by developmental milestones Vary in intensity, according to individual circumstances May occur unexpectedly Are not clear cut

Dealing with ups and downs: Acceptance Diagnosis: Too many tests Too many names/labels Unknown cause Same child

“Live day by day and enjoy life”

Influencing factors throughout this journey Medical issues Special needs/challenges Social integration Anxieties and fears and the stress of separation and even death Cultural beliefs and family dynamics Protector instincts Child’s adulthood

Predictable issues for families of children with special needs Adjustment New roles and responsibilities of family members Constraints on family activities Siblings Financial issues Socialization Inclusion

Coping: Moving Forward Family Support Immediate family Extended family Friends Spiritual Support Church, meditation/quiet time Professional Support Doctors, teachers, service providers (child’s new family) Psychological Support Recognize your own feelings, anxieties, fears, and desires Allow yourself to grieve fully; do not be afraid to show emotions Attend support groups Take one day at a time

The journey continues: Early intervention Navigating the system Services Characteristics Family oriented Parental involvement Welcoming environment Support system

Transition to school system Scary process Reminder of child’s challenges Knowing the law Student’s focus

Is there a perfect world/ program? Finding the perfect program Finding the perfect teacher Finding the right services/supports Parent involvement Conflict resolution Advocacy

And the journey continues: Transition to adult life Again . . . Challenges Emotions Supports Expectations

A note to professionals!!! (1 of 2) Every family is unique Composition Culture Lifestyle Different types of boundaries Rigid and flexible Family members fulfill a variety of functions to help Family members experience grief at different stages & intensity

A note to professionals!!! (2 of 2) Parents need to be viewed as capable parents They need assurance they will receive current and accurate information They need guidance Keep in mind parents might have been influenced by good or bad past experiences Parents of children with special needs experience higher levels of stress

Tips for Parents and Professionals Building positive collaboration

Support strategies for service providers Be friendly Understand the family’s situation Connect or provide the family with information about other families in similar situations Invite the family to participate in family support groups, workshops and trainings.

More support strategies for service providers Be a good, effective listener to what parents have to say Promote communication/collaboration Provide family with guidance and information regarding specific issues Be sensitive and respectful of family’s beliefs and culture Avoid getting overly involved Build rapport

Helpful tips for parents Be a parent. . . Understand your parental responsibilities KNOW YOUR CHILD Diagnosis Medical needs Educational needs Strengths and weaknesses Likes and dislikes, etc. . . UNDERSTAND YOUR OWN PERSONAL NEEDS Emotional and health needs Financial needs Family needs

More helpful tips for parents TAKE AN ACTIVE ROLE IN YOUR CHILD’S EDUCATION (equal partner) Be prepared Be informed Be available Ask questions Expect answers PROMOTE COLLABORATION AND COMMUNICATION Decision making Provide important information (child’s history, expectations, concerns, etc.) Share information (evaluations, medical reports, etc.)

And more helpful tips for parents Open and maintain lines of communication via. . . Email Telephone calls Text Daily journal In person Get to know your child’s team, their roles and responsibilities

Don’t forget to be a parent!!!!! Parent don’ts Don’t. . . lose your focus on “your child” forget your priorities let anyone decide for you forget about your other needs forget to be “you” Don’t forget to be a parent!!!!!

A family story “Never underestimate the power of a story. A well-told story has the potential to touch hearts and change minds. While impersonally delivered facts can easily be forgotten or dismissed, a story lingers and mingles with the other stories that shape our shared human experience.”

Words of wisdom “No one brings to the table the same experiences or thoughts. They are unique and it is necessary to share them, so others can begin to understand or have another reference point. There won’t always be agreement, but better understanding. A new way of thinking about something can be powerful and may change things for the next person.” - Kara, parent

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At the end, it has been a wonderful, learning Journey!!!

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