Successful People Think Differently

How do you define success?

What do coaching and positive psychology have to do with each other?

Habit 1: Believe You Can Do It How you explain your success and failures predicts more about your potential than you think What’s your “thinking style”? Fixed Mindset vs. Growth Mindset Coaching Question: Are you operating with a fixed mindset or a growth mindset?

Get Off the Hedonic Treadmill Habit 2: Get Off the Hedonic Treadmill Why are we poor predictors of our own happiness and how you can get it right Women, on average, are less happy than 40 years ago Happiness set point and what’s in your control Expectations and the problem with comparing “up” Create your own happiness action plan Coaching Question: What are you counting on to make you happy?

Stop Trying to Fix Your Weaknesses Habit 3: Stop Trying to Fix Your Weaknesses Why you should stop obsessing about what’s wrong with you and start building on what’s right When are you at your best? Coaching Question: In what way are you more focused on weaknesses than strengths?

Build Your Muscle of Self Control Habit 4: Build Your Muscle of Self Control Why your talent isn’t enough and how to develop the trait that will take you to the top Discipline trumps talent Instant gratification is an enticing B12 shot. Beware! Coaching Question: What’s the one consistent action you will take towards your vision?

Habit 5: Be Prepared for Battle Skill #1: Build Self-Awareness using “TTR” When you change your thinking, you change your life! Think of a recent, vivid, specific, adverse event, whether small or large Trigger (the event, conversation, challenge that cause the stress or problem) Thoughts (What you say to yourself in the heat of the moment) Reactions (Emotions and Actions)

What is TTR and Why is it Important? Trigger  Thoughts  Reactions Thoughts create reactions. If you can be aware of your thoughts, you can change them and ultimately change your reactions to the challenges and adversity that comes your way.

Cultivate Positive Emotion Habit 6: Cultivate Positive Emotion How a surprising but easily formula will save your relationships and transform your life Positive can undo negative. Make decisions in a positive frame of mind. Build your emotional bank account. Coaching Question: What or who makes you laugh? What games do you like to play?

How overabundance can rob you of satisfaction and make you ineffective Habit 7: Don’t Be a “Maximizer” How overabundance can rob you of satisfaction and make you ineffective Embrace the idea of having enough. Don’t leave behind good enough in pursuit of the best. Own your choices and leave behind regret. Be decisive and don’t second-guess your decisions. Coaching Question: In what ways are you a maximizer? Give a specific example of how this tendency has shown up recently and wasted time or resources.

Habit 8: Don’t Go It Alone Why authentic connections are more important than ever and how you can cultivate them Strong relationships increase your resilience. Daily social interaction is essential for your well-being. Coaching Question: Among your closest confidants, what specific step could you take to strengthen each of those relationships?

Habit 9: Write it Down The revealing reasons you need to tap into the power of the pen starting today Writing about your life goals is good for your health, and goal achievement is proven to strengthen your immune system. Coaching Question: What is the biggest challenge you face today? Will you try writing through it and see what you discover?

What are Your Happiness Triggers? Anticipation Smiling Service Gratitude Connection Flow Play Relaxation Financial Savvy Winning Words Movement Savoring Purpose