She wants a real man who... Will love her as Christ loved the church. Will use his headship in loving service to his wife and family. Will take the lead in the home and society in the spirit of humility. Will accept his God-given role and exercises true spiritual leadership. Will strive for the balance demonstrated by Jesus—strong, yet tender.  

A real man will love his wife as Christ loved the church.   Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her

Christ’s love is: An Unconditional Love Romans 5:6b-8 For when we were still without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. For scarcely for a righteous man will one die; yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.  

Christ’s love is: A Willful Love Deuteronomy 7:7-8 The LORD did not set His love on you nor choose you because you were more in number than any other people, for you were the least of all peoples; but because the LORD loves you, and because He would keep the oath which He swore to your fathers, the LORD has brought you out with a mighty hand…

and redeemed you from the house of bondage, from the hand of Pharaoh king of Egypt.  

Christ’s love is: An Unending Love Romans 8:38-39   Romans 8:38-39 For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Christ’s love is: A Purposeful Love Ephesians 5:25-27 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

Christ’s love is: A Manifested Love His love is clearly seen by what He does. He protects us. He intercedes for us. He guards us. He guides us. He strengthens us. He helps us. He defends us. He teaches us. He comforts us.

He equips us. He empathizes with us. He provides for all of our needs.  

A real man will use his headship in loving service to his wife and family.   John 10:11 I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep.

John 10:18 No one takes it from Me, but I lay it down of Myself. I have power to lay it down, and I have power to take it again. This command I have received from My Father.  

A real man will take the lead in the home and society in the spirit of humility.   Philippians 2:1-8 Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and sympathetic? 2 Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another…  

and working together with one heart and purpose and working together with one heart and purpose. 3 Don’t be selfish; don’t live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. 4 Don’t think only about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too, and what they are doing. 5 Your attitude should be the same that Christ Jesus had. 6 Though he was God, he did not demand and cling to his rights as God. 7 He made himself nothing…

he took the humble position of a slave and appeared in human form he took the humble position of a slave and appeared in human form. 8 And in human form he obediently humbled himself even further by dying a criminal’s death on a cross.  

Let this mind be in you. This mind humbles itself and says...   “YOU are more important than I.” “I am interested in what YOU are interested in.” “I am here to serve YOU.”  

A real man will accept his God-given role and exercise spiritual leadership in the home.   I Corinthians 11:3 But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

“Refusal to face the differences between men and women borders on intellectual insanity.” - Tim LaHaye

He created the man before He created the woman. He created the man to be the leader under Christ and equipped him to be: He created the marriage relationship to prophetically reflect Christ relationship to the church.

A real man will work at being balanced as Jesus was balanced—strong, yet tender.

Top Ten Things A Woman Wants in a Man She wants a man who is:   Sensitive yet masculine Ambitious yet considerate Sober-minded yet fun Spiritual yet natural

Self-controlled yet tender Faithful yet flexible Friendly yet discreet Bold yet humble Honest yet kind Well-groomed yet clearly masculine