In the name OF THE Father the son and the holy spirit one god. Amen.

The servant and sex education الخادم و التربية الجنسية Introduction OBJECTIVES OPOSSING THE PROJECT VERSUS EQUIPING OUR CHILDREN - THE OBJECTIVES ARE TO EQUIP THE SERVANT TO EQUIP THE CHILDREN - THE MILITANTS WORKING ON STOPPING THE GOUVERMENT FROM APPLYING THE CURRICULUM, ARE APPRECIATED AND NEEDED, BUT THIS IS NOT THE OBJECTIVE OF TODAYS TOPIC Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Is it important to teach about sex? ما اهمية الثقافة الجنسية؟ PROTECTION UNDERSTANDING PREPARATION FOR A SUCCESSFUL CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

How to talk about sex كيف نعلم عن الجنس 12 PRINCIPALS TO KEEP IN MIND from the Christian sex education website Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 1: Sex education is the shaping of character - Many parents mistakenly think that it is all about passing biological information no wonder why they shy away from talking about it not having any degree in biology. - Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 1: Sex education is the shaping of character (continued) Sex education is about shaping a child’s character: Information is only a part of it Shape the values and attitudes Shape their world view Provide emotional strength they will need to make godly decisions Instill the skills to implement the good decisions they make Objective: children’s behavior to spring from their heart, which is formed by their relationship with God and devotion to God. Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 2: Parents are the principle sex educators Who’s role is it? Parents, school, servant, media … No one has impact on children like parents and hopefully their servants Avoiding the topic means: - frustration, - confusion, - insecurity, - children will conclude that you are not the right source since you avoid the subject. Some think that it is all about “sex proofing” children through the teen years, it is about preparing them to handle god’s gift of sexuality, experiencing the fullness of god’s blessing as they get engaged and marry and have children When children start learning about sexuality? Very early! They learn from watching how parents deal with each other Change the way you think about sex education it is all about preparing children to taste the fullness of god’s blessings Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 3: be the first to plant The first message is the most influential Do not wait until teenage years to have ‘the talk’, too late!! others have planted already in your child. Your silence is not just absence it has other meanings to the child Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 4: Seize those “teachable moments;” become an “askable” parent Pregnant mom at church Movie preview Foul word News about sexual abuse Sexual affair of a celebrity Animals in the zoo Etc … Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 5: Stories are powerful teaching tools Teach like Christ, he used parables and stories Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 6: Accurate and explicit messages are best Do not give wrong information When the child ask ‘how I came’ don’t say I found you in church … he might be scared that the church claim him again or he loose you or discredit you from teaching him about sexuality Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 7: Positive messages are powerful We miss the point when we teach ‘don’t’ list. When god created Adam and eve he was pleased by his creation and gave them to experience the joy of being one flesh and participate with god in the creation by having children. Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 "FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH." 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 8: Repetition is critical; repetition is really, really important If the child was not ready when he heard it he will need to hear it again The most important lessons they need to hear it over and over again Example: Holiness and purity Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 9: Close, positive parent-child relationships are crucial Don’t go to the grocery store hungry! Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Principle 10: Sexuality is not everything; keep your perspective, and Our God can forgive, heal, and redeem anything Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Dealing with our past التعامل مع الماضي Before talking … get help for your past wounds regarding the issue of sex education Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

What to teach about sex? ماذا نعلم عن الجنس؟ Age 2-4 Age 4-7 Age 7 to 9 Teenage years Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Conclusion IT IS A PROCESS OF TEACHING SKILLS AND FORGING CARACTER, SO BE PATIENT … CHOOSE AGE APRROAPRIATE MATIRIAL SEIZE THE OPORTUNITIES TO TEACH OR MAKE THOSE OPPORTUNITIES BY TALKING ABOUT: FREEDOM, LOVE AND THE BODY Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Questions and comments Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

references Bible Stop Sexualizing Our Children by Matt Barber retreived Oct 2016 at http://www.aacc.net/stop-sexualizing-our-children/ is it a necessity to teach sexuality?, Video by Fr Daoud Lamaai retrieved oct 2016 at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aMtGGb1AmVs Christian sex education, website by Dr Jones Stanton retrieved oct 2016 at http://www.christiansexed.com/about-the-authors/ What to teach about sex, article retrieved oct 2016 at http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/sexuality/talking-about-sex/what- to-teach-about-sex GIBSON, S. T. (2004). PROPOSED LEVELS OF CHRISTIAN SPIRITUALMATURITY. Journal of Psychology and Theology Vol. 32, No. 4, 295-304 Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016

Glory be to God forever Virgin Mary Servants Meeting Sunday Oct 30, 2016