Parenting at Your Best Using Neuroscience and Neuro-Linguistic Programming to create a Harmonious Household

Optimal Brain Functioning Sleep, Nutrition, Movement Understanding the Brain Phrasings that make the household harmonious

The Prize

Attachment “Mom can we get up now? “Sure you can. We aren’t attached…Yes we are.” Oxytocin- attachment and love hormone Strengthen through eye gazing, touching, and cuddling.

Multiple Smartness

Sleep Develop a sleep routine Stop Screen time 1.5 to 2 hours before bed. Sleep in as dark as space as possible. Sleep Cycle is 1.5 hours. Age Hours 3-5 10-13 6-13 9-11 14-17 8-10 18-65 7-9 Learning takes place, getting rid of emotionally charged material

Nutrition Healthy Fats and Protein Breakfast Lunch Dinner Snack 7 Brain Foods for Kids 1. Eggs protein and nutrients in eggs help kids concentrate 2. Full Fat Plain Yogurt Fat is important to brain health 3. Greens Full of folate and vitamins 4. Fish Vitamin D and omega-3s 5. Nuts and Seeds protein, essential fatty acids 6. Oatmeal   keep heart and brain  arteries clear 7. Apples and Plums quercetin

Movement How many Olympic sports does your family participate in every day?

Amygdala

Parenting is tough We generally parent as we were parented. Learning new strategies can help you and your child enjoy each other and have more fun!

Scarlett’s Recipe for Parenting Understand the Adult/Child power dynamic Calms the D.B. Expectations Calms D.B./Engages U.B. Give Choices Calms D.B./Engages U.B. Acknowledge Feelings and L/R Teach Safe Ways to Express Them. Help your child tell their story. Calms and reprocesses L/R Teach Conflict Resolution skills Calms and Reprocesses L/R Consider saving No’s for Safety only

Expectations Safety In Public Car Living Room Respect Kitchen Responsible Respect Safety In Public Car Living Room Kitchen

Engage Don’t Enrage Walk inside Don’t run inside! Pens are for paper. Don’t write on the wall! Curfew is 11 p.m. Don’t come home late! Task then play. The house is a mess!

Enforceable Statements My car leaves at 8 a.m. I keep the toys I pick up. You can keep the toys you pick up. I will listen as soon as your voice is as calm as mine.

Choices Choose two ideas that you are comfortable with and offer them. Do you want to wear the red shirt or the blue shirt? Do you want to go to your friends house at 1 p.m. or 4 p.m.?

Harmonious Phrasings And either or Both either or Invite Do it or else. Consider Do it or else. Make another choice No! When _____ then ____.

I message When you ________________. I feel __________________. I want _________________

Acknowledge Feelings and Safely Express them

Name it to Tame it

Move it or Lose it

Talk It Out Stop and Cool Off. Take a deep Breathe Ask for help   Take a deep Breathe Ask for help Laugh it off Forget about it Walk Away Count to ten Hulk It O.K. What is the problem? How can you solve the problem?   Use humor Apologize Take Turns Postpone Share Use an I message Compromise Problem Solve

Remember the Prize

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