HOW TO TEACH RESILIENCE TO YOUNG CHILDREN

hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy INGREDIENTS: Confidence Competence Relationships

The ability to RECOVER from ADVERSITY! What IS Resilience? The ability to RECOVER from ADVERSITY! What do we know? Bad things happen. There are always choices to be made. Feelings change over time. Recovery requires tools and experience. What do they need? PRACTICE.

Stepping back helps kids. Take One Step The Myth: “Getting involved will make us both feel better!” The Truth: Stepping back helps kids.

GUILT. Why do adults step in? Love Fear Empathy Helpfulness Greater resources Experience Habit Genuine enjoyment Fear Responsibility Overwhelming Deteriorating Future consequences Risking the relationship GUILT.

Building resilience requires trust. Finding Resilience Building resilience requires trust. What doesn’t work? “Stop crying!” “Calm down.” “Just relax!” Why not? Can I tell you how to feel? Strong emotion is a sign of fight or flight. What does work? Communication and repetition.

Look for chances to take one step back. How do we teach it? Doing = learning. Doing builds resilience! Home skills Relationship skills Problem-solving! Look for chances to take one step back.

Home Skills Clothing Food Homework Cleaning Transportation Appointments Budgeting/Buying

Relationship Skills Siblings Friendships Strangers Teachers/Coaches Bosses Romantic relationships

Problem-Solving Let life teach the lesson! Praise the process. Play “What if?” Read a book or watch a show. What would you tell a friend? “I’ll be really interested to see what you do!”

“I’ll be interested to see what you do!” resilience Mistakes Praise Life lessons Choices Risk-taking Resources! “I’ll be interested to see what you do!”

RESILIENCE “I’ll be interested to see what you do!” Mistakes Praise Life lessons Choices Risk-taking Resources! “I’ll be interested to see what you do!”

Empathy without intervention.

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