Chapter 8: “Choosing to Marry” Mrs.Karen Swope Family and Consumer Sciences Columbian High School

Earliest Marriage Unions Occurred by ____________________ A warrior from a neighboring tribe would ____________________ her to his hut. The custom of carrying the bride over the ______________ evolved from this.

Arranged Marriages Done by the father to______________. Done to acquire __________________. The father no longer wanted the _________________ for his daughter. Arranged marriages still occur today, in some cultures.

Customs Stemming from Arranged Marriages ___________ - payment or gifts made by the bride’s family to the groom for taking the girl off the father’s hands. It may be livestock, gold, land. The modern day _________ evolved from the dowry. _____________ - gifts paid by the groom to the father of the bride. It may be livestock, gold, or land.

Marriage Customs Still in Use Today White dress: ______ Rice, seeds, petals thrown at the couple: __________ Wedding shower: ____________ the couple with gifts for their new household.

Marriage Customs Floral bouquets: ______________; covers up body odors.

Marriage Customs White linen aisle runner: used to keep the bride’s________________________

Qualities to Bring to a Marriage Ability to give and receive love Ability to express empathy Can accept ____________ in a partner Can accept emotions and control them Can __________________ without hurting another

Qualities to Bring to a Marriage cont. Flexible and can accept change Being flexible means being willing to _______________________. Being flexible also means being accepting and tolerant of certain personality traits. Finally, being able to think _______________ and share in _____________________ is an important trait to bring to a marriage.

Qualities that Hinder a Marriage Relationship Being __________________________ _____________ to partners needs Rigid, unwilling to change Cannot communicate ______________ Reacts in an emotional or unreasonable way.

Evaluating a Relationship Age at marriage: the link between age and marriage success is related to ________________maturity as well as a couples financial stability. A person is better prepared to make a ______________________________ the teen years.

Evaluating a Relationship cont. _________________: people who have much in common have a more satisfying marriage. People are attracted to others with __________________, life goals and values, and similar backgrounds.

Complementary Qualities When a person is attracted to another who is _________________ from them. These differences benefit the relationship. The ___________________________ of the other. Examples?

Positive Reasons for Marrying ________________ love _________________ Desire to ___________ throughout life

Negative Reasons for Marrying Total infatuation with each other To avoid loneliness For ___________________________ To escape family ___________________ Because all their friends are getting married. To achieve adult status Because of __________________________

Summary There are many marriage customs and traditions still in existence today. Before marriage, couples should consider what qualities are being brought to the marriage. Homogamous partners tend to experience greater success in a marriage relationship. There are both positive and negative reasons for marrying.