Who Are You? Stress and Anger!!! How do you deal with each? Ch. 2 Personality, Self-Esteem and Emotions

Personality- Behaviors, attitudes, feelings, and ways of thinking that make you an individual. Extroversion- How much you like being with other people. Agreeableness- Your tendency to relate to other people in a friendly way. Conscientiousness- How responsible and self disciplined you are. Emotional Stability- Relaxed, secure, and calm even during difficult situations. Openness to Experiences- Curious, imaginative and creative.

Stages of Personality Development: Develop Trust (infant- in other people) Learn to be Independent (young children- do things for self) Take Initiative (children-plan own activities) Develop Skills (children- school, home, with others) Search for Identity (teens- sense of self) Establish Intimacy (young adult- bond with others) Create and Nurture (middle adulthood- helping younger people grow) Look Back with Acceptance (older adulthood- accept choices made/opportunities missed)

Self-Esteem What is Self-Esteem? How much you respect yourself and like yourself. Your opinion of yourself. Many psychologists think high self-esteem has a positive effect on health, while low self- esteem has a negative effect on health, do you agree? Benefits of high self-esteem: accept self, positive attitude, close relationships, ask for help… Risks of low self-esteem: judge self harsh, worry too much, negative thoughts, engage in self-destructive behavior Boost your Self-Esteem: Maintain a positive attitude Focus on strengths Form close relationships Set goals for self Avoid risky behaviors Ask for help Help others

How Self-Esteem Develops On average, self-esteem drops in early adolescence, increases gradually during adulthood, and decreases again toward the end of life. Childhood- Support and encourage. Adolescence- Influenced by the world around. Adulthood- Accomplish goals and take control. Improving your Self-Esteem -Make a list of strengths and weaknesses (focus on +) -Set ambitious but realistic goals -Do not be too hard on yourself -Rely on your values -Learn to accept compliments -Look beyond your own concerns -Do not focus too much on appearance

Primary Emotions- Expressed by people in all cultures. Happiness Sadness Anger/Fear

Anger… Turn to a different neighbor and share 3 ways you deal with anger in your life... Ready, Set, GO! What was 1 way your partner said they dealt with anger? Share out..

Anger… How to Control Your Anger: If someone makes you upset- Stop. “I’m getting Angry” Think about what will happen if you lose control. “If I lose control…” Ask yourself why you’re really angry. “The reason I’m angry is…” 4. Reduce the anger. “I need to cool down. I’m going to…” 5. Reward yourself. “I did a good job! I’m going to…!”

Anger… How to Express it Constructively: If someone makes you upset- Tell the person how you feel. “I’m feeling _____” Identify the specific event that made you feel that way. “I’m _____because ______” 3. Explain why that specific event made you feel that way. “When you ____, I felt ___” If you are SO upset that you feel you’re losing control, then use the skill “How to Control Your Anger. (Previous Slide)

Learned Emotions- Love Guilt/Shame Common Defense Mechanisms: Denial- Refuse to recognize problem. Compensation-Make up for weaknesses by excelling in another area. Rationalization-Make excuses for actions or feelings Reaction Formation-Behaving in a way opposite to the way you feel. Projection- Putting your own faults onto another person. Regression-Returning to immature behaviors to express emotions

Remember this about Emotions and Anger Management…