PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT Improving the Character of Winners Miriam R. Garcia, Ph.D. July 31, 2008

What is PERSONALITY? Somebody's set of characteristics. Characteristics making somebody appealing. The distinctive or noticeable characteristics that make somebody socially appealing

Characteristics that ATTRACT! Positive Communicative Dependable Personable Organized

Committed Motivated Compassionate Flexible Perceptive

Value Based Knowledgeable Creative Patient Sense of Humor

First Impressions Within the first three seconds of a new encounter, you are evaluated… even if it is just a glance. Within only three seconds, you make an indelible impression. You may intrigue some, and disenchant others.

People appraise your visual and behavioral appearance from head to toe. They observe your demeanor, mannerisms, and body language and even assess your grooming and accessories – watch, handbag, backpack, shoes, color combination of your get-up, etc.

Once the first impression is made, it is virtually irreversible. You can learn to make a positive and lasting first impression, modify it to suit any situation, and come out a WINNER.

You need to assess and identify your personality, physical appearance, lifestyle and goals. Those who do will have the advantage.

Attitude Tips Think about life as an adventure filled with exciting unknowns. Look for the best in every situation. Where is the plus? Is there opportunity here? Decide what you want in life and stay true to your values and beliefs.

Avoid using 'quick fixes' as solutions to problems. Know your strengths and remind yourself of them every day. Identify your weaknesses -see them as limitations rather than flaws.

Build on your strengths and find ways to reduce your limitations. Learn from your mistakes. Plan a different way to handle it next time. Speak up for yourself and put your pride into words.

Say what you feel. Always try to speak the truth. Be proud of who you are.

Hobbies and Interests Hobbies are practiced for interest and enjoyment, rather than financial reward. Engaging in a hobby can lead to acquiring substantial skill, knowledge, and experience. Personal interests can be a way to identify your values, skills and abilities.

Emotional IQ The emotionally intelligent person is someone who can handle both business (professional/work) and social situations with style and grace.

Five Basic Elements of Emotional Intelligence Self-awareness Managing emotions Self-motivation Recognizing the emotions of others Handling relationships

Signs of Self Confidence Stance Expression Eye Contact Speed Space Gestures

Remember! Success comes to: those with integrity, those that are resourceful, those that make a fabulous impression!

William A. Foster Quotes: Quality is never an accident; it is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, intelligent direction and skillful execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives.

"Winners and Losers" Winners make commitments Losers make promises; Winners go through a problem Losers go around it, never get past it; Winners say, "Let's find out" Losers say, "Nobody knows" ;

Winners always have a plan Losers always have an excuse; Winners say "There's a better way" Losers say, "It's the way it's always been done“; Winners are always involved in the answer Losers are always part of the problem;

Winners know there is still much to learn Losers want to be considered an expert before knowing how little is known; Winners learn from their mistakes Losers learn not to make mistakes by not trying anything different !

Be a winner! Thank You and Good Luck!