Family Life Education RELATIONSHIPS (Day 5)

Objectives- Day 5 SOLs: 9.1, 9.1b, 9.1d: 9.2, 9.2a, 9.1c 9.4, 9.4a, 9.4b Students will be able to recognize signs of harmful relationships Students will be able to identify 10 Profiles of People who relate in harmful ways

Bell Ringer (Day 5) Pick either 1 or 2 to write half page red to red. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Boys and girls should attend separate schools. Support your opinion by using specific reasons and details. Include the statement as the first sentence in the beginning of essay. Save these to be turned in with your test!

Recognizing Harmful Relationships A Harmful Relationship is one that harms self-respect, interferes with productivity and health, and includes violence and/or drug misuse and abuse. Some people lack self-respect. They are not interested in the health of others. They do not encourage others to be productive and do their best. They relate with others in harmful ways.

Positive/Negative Effects of T.V. or Media Influencing Relationships Desensitization - the effect of reacting less and less to the exposure of something. Teens who are exposed to a lot of negative relationship qualities, begin to accept those as common and think those qualities are necessary for their own. **Discuss** Also desensitization comes from within the family. (observation of one’s own parents)

10 Profiles of People Who Relate in Harmful Ways The People Pleaser - one who will do anything to be liked. Someone who constantly seeks the approval of others. The Enabler - One who supports the harmful behavior of others. They may also contribute to the harmful ways of another person.

10 Profiles cont. The Clinger - one who is needy and dependent. Constantly turning to someone else to feel better. Suffocates others due to their needs. The Fixer - a person who tries to fix other people’s problems. Too quick to give advice. Takes over other people’s responsibilities.

10 Profiles cont. The Distancer - One who is emotionally unavailable. Avoids sharing feelings. Keeps people at arm’s length. The Controller - One who is possessive, jealous, and domineering. Doesn’t respect the will of others. Demands his/her own way.

10 Profiles cont. The Center - One who is self-centered. Does the talking but not the listening. Ignores the needs of others. The Abuser - One who abuses others. Puts down others. Threatens or harms others. The Liar - Does not tell the truth. Builds relationships based on lies. Manipulates others into the responses he/she wants.

10 Profiles cont. The Promise Breaker - Is unreliable. Makes plans and cancels them without regret. Agrees to change behaviors and doesn’t do so.

Classwork 5 – Class work: In your notebook to be turned in with your Bell Ringers, write ½ page red to red on what profile you think you might be. You might be only one profile or you may be a combination of profiles. Explain why and use examples and descriptions.