Love

Bellringer How do you show love?

Greek gods identified 3 types of love philos- brotherly love eros- sensuous feeling a couple feel agape- self-sacrificing

Love vs Infatuation love at first sight Grows as relationship grows develop rapport share personal thoughts & feelings depend on each other for support & encouragement both feel personal needs are being met Committed to each others happiness & well- being Stays strong even when romantic feelings decrease   love at first sight Begins quickly(usually ends at quick as it began) Always want to be around person Attraction is the basis for love More centered around your own feelings Accompanied by doubts and jealously

How we feel & express our Love LOVE LANGUAGES How we feel & express our Love

Reflection Do you agree with your top? Why/Why not.. Three reasons. Do you agree with your lowest? Why/why not.. Three reasons.

Words of Affirmation You feel loved when another person tell you that he or she values you as a person and appreciates your special way with the most ordinary tasks You look great You are the best _____ I love your ____ Needs to HEAR to feel loved

0ffer encouragement. reinforcing a difficult decision calling attention to progress made on a current project acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

Quality Time You feel closest to another person when you receive focused attention It involves: sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy relationship

Receiving Gifts Tangible expressions of love assure you that the other person is not only thinking of you but that he or she cares enough to show it Treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. Feel that a lack of gifts means a lack of love from their mate These gifts need not to come every day, or even every week. They don’t even need to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare

Acts of Service You feel most loved when someone helps you carry out your responsibilities It is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates. Do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. Done out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment.

Physical Touch You feel most loved when you literally make contact with another person. You enjoy being embraced and feeling another’s touch Little acts such as a touch on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.

Importance of Knowing Your Partner Ask how people want to be loved Show them love in that way Communication + Love language= Successful relationships Note that love language/relationship preferences may change as you get older Example- Acts of Service may come into play whenever your move in with someone