Domestic Violence: The Secret Sin - Part 1 5 Domestic Violence: The Secret Sin - Part 1

Domestic Violence: Definition Violence occurring between partners or between children and adults in an on-going domestic relationship.

National D.V. - Stats 37% of E.R. visits 50% of Spousal Homicides D.V. leading cause of birth defects

Oklahoma D.V. - Stats 36,000 911 calls in OKC 41% of all homicides 70% of abused child deaths include abuse of the mother

Battered Wife Syndrome Physical Abuse Emotional/Psychological Abuse Sexual Abuse

Batterers Low self esteem Low trust Poor nurturers Perfectionists Fear loss of control Out of touch with feelings except anger

Batterers Dual personalities Blames others All types Dominance Substance abuse History of family abuse Sensitive

Reasons for Domestic Violence Previous family learning

Reasons for Domestic Violence Previous family learning Low self esteem

Reasons for Domestic Violence Previous family learning Low self esteem Displacement of tension

Reasons for Domestic Violence Previous family learning Low self esteem Displacement of tension Reinforcement of violence

Reasons for Domestic Violence Previous family learning Low self esteem Displacement of tension Reinforcement of violence No referee

Reasons for Domestic Violence Previous family learning Low self esteem Displacement of tension Reinforcement of violence No referee Violence in society

Reasons for Domestic Violence Previous family learning Low self esteem Displacement of tension Reinforcement of violence No referee Violence in society Cultural conditioning

Reasons for Domestic Violence Previous family learning Low self esteem Displacement of tension Reinforcement of violence No referee Violence in society Cultural conditioning Misunderstanding of scriptures

Cycle of Violence Violent Episodes Crisis State Stress Period Honeymoon Calmness

Power and Control Threats

Power and Control Threats Intimidation

Power and Control Threats Intimidation Emotional abuse

Power and Control Threats Intimidation Emotional abuse Isolation

Blaming Power and Control Threats Intimidation Emotional abuse Isolation Blaming

Using children Power and Control Threats Intimidation Emotional abuse Isolation Blaming Using children

Using male privilege Power and Control Threats Intimidation Emotional abuse Isolation Blaming Using children Using male privilege

Power and Control Using economic abuse Threats Intimidation Emotional abuse Isolation Blaming Using children Using male privilege Using economic abuse

Uses sexual aggression Power and Control Threats Intimidation Emotional abuse Isolation Blaming Using children Using male privilege Using economic abuse Uses sexual aggression

The method is to increase control over the wife and children.

The goal is total control.

Why do women stay? Stage 1 She loves him

Why do women stay? Stage 1 She loves him Stage 2 She can change him

Why do women stay? Stage 1 She loves him Stage 2 She can change him She fears him

It happens in the “best” of families Final Thoughts It happens in the “best” of families

Beating someone is wrong Final Thoughts It happens in the “best” of families Beating someone is wrong

There is help and a way out Final Thoughts It happens in the “best” of families Beating someone is wrong There is help and a way out