Presented by: Terri Miller President Aftermath of Victimization: A parent’s perspective of educator misconduct Presented by: Terri Miller President

It just shouldn’t be so hard….

What you will learn… The Realization What to do and Where to turn? Making a report My Child’s Injury The Wedge The Blame Game The Media Making a Difference

The Realization Shock Horror Anger Fear Betrayal Guilt Shame Worry Frustration Sorrow Grief

What to do and Where to turn? How do I help my child? Should I make a report? Who do I report to? Where do I get help? Why am I treated like I’m a pariah? What is going to happen to the accused? Will my child be safe?

vs. Making a Report Administration Law Enforcement School Principal School Counselor District Superintendent State Dept. of Ed. Licensing Administration Local Police/Sheriff, Special Victims and Cyber Crimes Units Victim Services Prosecution Trial & Sentencing vs.

My Child’s Injury Stolen Innocence Heartache / Betrayal Emotional Stability Jeopardized Schoolgirl considered suicide after teacher's sex abuse Pregnancy Sexually Transmitted Disease Stolen virginity, adultery, sin, moral integrity destroyed Emotional pain, betrayed of trust, caught in a web of deceit, anguish over being one of the exploited-I’m one of them, my reputation is ruined. Depression, anxiety, panic, fear, shame, guilt, humiliation, stigma, eating disorders, cutting, gastrointestinal disorders, attempted suicide and completed suicide.

The Wedge Torn between two beloveds Uncooperative "I began lying to my parents to create more time with her. There was a lot of guilt developing in me that I forced myself to ignore." Uncooperative Desperate for Justice Family in conflict

The Blame Game Your hurting Mr. or Ms. Fabulous. Your going to take money from education if you sue and all the students will suffer. You’re out of control and out of line. What’s a teacher to do with a hormonally charged teen? He/she initiated it. You could be sued for liable. Whistleblower retaliation

The Media Principal's notes say Calif. teacher charged with molesting kids blindfolded Teacher Jailed For Having Sex With Students And Giving Them Drugs TEACHER AT PRESTIGIOUS BRONX PRIVATE SCHOOL BUSTED FOR ROMPS ... Teacher admits to kid sex The child in this case is 14 yrs. old. Michael Scaringe sentenced to seven years for rape of 13-year-old girl

Making a Difference Tighten abuse reporting and background checks on educators ... S.E.S.A.M.E. President Terri Miller’s Testimony in Support of the Jeremy Bell Act Sex abuse survivor shares tale of despair  Amy Hestir Student Protection Act Testimony by Roy Bell, on The Jeremy Bell Act, whose namesake is that of his murdered son at the hands of his elementary school principal.

Conclusion Be compassionate and empathetic Be informative and helpful Be responsible and follow the law Be of help and not a hindrance Be proactive to ensure your schools are safe Be protective of our children above all else Be a Hero and not a Bystander

Stop Educator Sexual Abuse, Misconduct and Exploitation Questions? S.E.S.A.M.E., Inc. Stop Educator Sexual Abuse, Misconduct and Exploitation www.sesamenet.org (702) 371-1290