Blue Butterfly Workshop

Feeling Safe We all have the right to feel safe all the time We can talk with someone about anything even if it feels awful or small The basic concept is that unless the people are united, it is easy to destroy them. 

Bertie the Blue Butterfly Bertie the Blue Butterfly Do you ever get the butterfly feeling? When did you last get that feeling? What if it’s a family member that is causing you to get butterflies? Who can you trust?

Bertie the Blue Butterfly Safe and Unsafe Butterflies Safe Butterflies The feeling before and during a roller coaster ride The feeling before and during a test or a sports competition The feeling you get when you make a new friend Unsafe Butterflies The feeling when someone is cruel to you by calling you names or telling stories The feeling you get when you see something that worries you

What is Bullying? Bullying is when one person, or a group of people, make another person feel uncomfortable, upset or hurt. Bullying is intentional – a person who bullies hurts someone else on purpose. Bullying is persistent – it happens more than once.

Bullying can be: Physical – being violent towards someone, stealing from them or damaging their belongings. Verbal – name calling, saying nasty things about family and friends, making unkind jokes, threatening someone, saying nasty things behind someone’s back. Technological – sending nasty text messages, silent or abusive phone calls, sending nasty emails. Indirect – spreading horrible stories about someone, ignoring them, excluding them from a game or group.

What can you do? Use humour – say something funny back Is that the best you can come up with? That makes two of us So, we have something in common then? Talking to yourself again?

What else can I do? Use your body language – people “say things” even when they don’t actually talk. Appear confident by smiling, keeping your head up and looking people in the eye. Keep your voice strong – try to speak in a loud clear voice. Take reinforcements – if you need to go somewhere new or difficult, take a friend, someone from your family or a mascot with you.

WORKSHEET - What if someone else is being bullied? Go and get a friend. With them, confront the people doing the bullying and tell them to back off. Walk away and find a teacher. Tell them what you have seen. Go up to the person being bullied and ask them to come with you. Comfort them and tell them it was not their fault. Encourage them to tell a teacher. Walk away. Go and find your friends to talk about what you saw on television last night. Go up to the situation on your own. Tell the people doing the bullying to stop what they are doing. Later on, tell a teacher what you saw. Watch what is happening. Do nothing, regardless of how you feel. Call over the person being bullied. Ask them if they want to play with you and your friends on the other side of the playground.

When things aren’t right at home Talk to someone - if someone is upsetting you at home, try to speak to a trusted adult, another family member, a teacher, friend, or a helpline. (Remember – it is not your fault) Keeping safe – what help is available? – if you witness any fighting - don’t get involved. If you are scared you can call 999 and the Police will come to your house to help. It is also helpful to let a friend know if this is worrying you so that they can help.

Tips for when things get tough If you have a butterfly or a question that needs answering or listening to, or you feel you want to runaway from the problem PLEASE follow these guidelines: Tell a Trusted Adult Ring the Police 999 Ring Childline on 0800 1111 NSPCC on 0808 800 5000 Runaway Helpline on 0808 800 70 70

The dangers of running away Running away is dangerous and it is important you get help If you need to run away or have been forced to leave home, go to your nearest Trusted Adult or the Police. You won’t get into trouble, remember sharing your worries enables us to help you and make sure you safe. Nearby shop Teacher Friend of the family Police or Fire Parent at home PERSONAL NETWORK

Online Butterflies: Who has ever clicked on something on-line that has given them butterflies? REMEMBER: Don’t post personal information or pictures or videos Keep privacy settings high Never give out passwords Don’t befriend people you don’t know Respect other people’s views, even if you don’t agree with someone else’s views doesn’t mean you need to be rude

Recap Don’t respond - Your reaction is what the bully wants. Don’t retaliate - Getting back at bullies makes you one. Talk to a Trusted Adult - You deserve backup. Block the bully - If the harassment’s coming in the form of instant messages, texts, you need to block them. Leave the room if it is a chat room. Be civil - even if you don’t like someone. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Don’t be a bully - How would you feel if someone harassed you? Be a friend not a bystander – Help the victim and report the behaviour.

Feeling Safe We all have the right to feel safe all the time We can talk with someone about anything even if it feels awful or small The basic concept is that unless the people are united, it is easy to destroy them. 

Now that we have looked at bullying and violence, what will you do to release any butterfly feelings? A presentation provided by Northants Police & Fire & Rescue and supported by Community Safety Partners