Believing in Yourself: Self Confidence “In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.”- Bill Cosby

The Power of Thought All behavior begins and ends as thoughts Bad thoughts vs. Good thoughts Think-Feel-Act model

Importance of Thoughts Thoughts are unavoidable Our thoughts influence our actions Self-fulfilling prophecy

How thoughts work for you Anxiety Think Act Feel

How thoughts works for you Anxiety I know I am going to have anxiety about this and I know I will do bad Think You start to make errors you might not of made Act You get so worked up you start feeling it Feel

How thoughts works for you Think of a time in the past where you felt anxiety. What was the situation? What did it feel like? What lead up to this feeling? What was the outcome? Let’s look at this closer to see what was happening in the situation and how you could have changed: the thought that lead to the feelings that lead to the action that let to the outcome…

I never do well on projects! Anxiety The Thought I did not do well on the last one! I never do well on projects! I’ve a big project coming up! The Feeling Anxiety The Action I am not going to try as hard If I try too hard then I’ll just be more anxious I have worked hard before and look at what good that did

STOP IT BEFORE IT STARTS. WITH ANXIETY, There is a buildup to a point in which you will FEEL and ACT on it! Anxiety

Anxiety The Thought The Feeling The Action Use Imaging Be a buddy Never say never I did not do well on my last test! I never do well on tests! I have a test coming up! The Feeling The Action I am not going to even try to study If I study I am going to get more anxiety Besides I have studied a lot before and look at what good that did

taking steps to do better Anxiety The Thought I have decided to change and am taking steps to do better I choose to think positive I picture myself doing well Use Imaging Be a buddy Never say never The Feeling The Action

taking steps to do better Anxiety The Thought I have decided to change and am taking steps to do better I choose to think positive I picture myself doing well The Feeling The Action I am not going to even try to study Put your thoughts into action Use relaxing thoughts If I study I am going to get more anxiety Monitor what works and what doesn't Besides I have studied a lot before and look at what good that did

taking steps to do better Anxiety The Thought I have decided to change and am taking steps to do better I choose to think positive I picture myself doing well The Feeling The Action Put your thoughts into action I now can study without feeling dejected If I start to feel anxiety I will relax Use relaxing thoughts I have learned and will learn what works Monitor what works and what doesn't

Decoding Self-Confidence The belief in oneself A self-confident person thinks that he or she can reach a goal or cope with a that situation What happens when confidence is lost?

Learned Helplessness Identified by Psychologist Martin Seligman The tendency for humans and animals alike to become helpless at things they can not change Illustration: Poor dog

So people that are self-confident think and act differently?! While our thoughts affect our confidence, our behaviors foster it! Nothing creates the belief that something can be done like actually doing that something! Nothing succeeds like Success!

Self-confidence Cycle Feeling of Competence Self-Motivation Using Strategies of Success Self-confidence Success Actions

Four Techniques for Building Self-Confidence Regulate your emotional level Being aware of our feelings helps us recognize what we are thinking Reduce the drive to avoid your goal Block the fear producer from your awareness Use relaxation techniques

Techniques Con’t Seek Affirmation What does Stewart Smally say? Works just as well in an academic setting Encouragement from

Pick the Right Models Are women on the cover of Vogue the best way to judge your own body? Pick ones who are similar to yourself-ones who don’t have an army at there disposal to get them looking the way they do. Maybe even choose a student in class or colleague who you know succeeds and watch how they do it

Just Do It What better way is there to convince yourself of your own capability to cope or perform successfully than trying it and having a successful experience! Reasonable risk Bite-Sized pieces