Choosing a Partner Dating

Choosing a partner Do we all choose who we get married to? “Free-choice culture” Any exceptions?

Let’s think: If a partner had the qualities you desired, would you marry if you weren’t in love?”

If a partner had the qualities you desired, would you marry if you weren’t in love?

Courtship and dating 1828 Webster dictionary defined courtship as “the act of soliciting favor, the act of wooing in love, solicitation of a woman to marriage” Courtship = preparation for marriage The word dating emerged in 1910’s By the 1910s, adolescent boys, in growing numbers, had begun to ask girls out. During the 1920s and 1930s, dating also began to involve parties and high school events, including dances, plays, and football games.

Dating Today Consists of an exclusive relationship developed through a series of appointed meetings

Why do we date? Dating may serve a few functions: Pleasure Romance Learning to relate to the opposite or same sex (depending on sexual orientation) To gain one’s progressive commitment to marriage. Other reasons?

Hooking up “Fast food of dating” A casual sexual encounter — anything from kissing onwards — with no strings attached

Hooking up 60-84 % of students reported having hooked up Different than one-night stand because it doesn’t necessarily involve sexual intercourse

How many times have you hooked up?

Some facts about hooking up Only 14% did not know the person Almost half of the hook ups started at a party On average, girls had 3, guys had 5 drinks What does it imply to have hooked up?

What did you do when you hooked up?

Where do hook ups lead to? A) Nothing B) Friends with benefits C) Exclusive relationship (rarely) DTR What is it? Who is more likely to initiate it?

Where do hook ups lead to? Agree or Disagree to: “People who hook up and have sex the first night don’t end up in a stable relationship” 43.3% agreed 20.6% disagreed 33.1% Undecided

Where do we meet people? Friends Different locations Online dating Myspace, facebook Video dating Speed dating Mail order brides

Internet dating