Oldham Woods church of Christ Faithful & True PURITY IN MARRIAGE by Brent Hunter a study especially for men JULY 1, 2007 Sunday AM & PM Oldham Woods church of Christ

Faithful & True THESIS: AM. Need for moral integrity Holy Hearts Holy Hands Holy Heads (Thoughts!) PM. Guidelines to dealing with sexual temptation.

10 Guidelines... RUN! ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY Choose Life! Deut 30:15-19 Flee youthful lusts.. II Tim 2:22 Flee sexual immorality I Cor 6:18 Don’t put yourself in a position to see how good your resistance is. Gen 39:7-12 - Joseph - HE RAN! And he did not go back for his jacket… ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY Choose Life! Deut 30:15-19 If you make the wrong choice it is your fault!

He is Able… Three Components: 3 Confession Accountability Mental Transformation 3

10 Guidelines BE ACCOUNTABLE James 5:16 “Confess your faults ...” John Maxwell - 5 questions: Spending time with God? Are your thoughts Pure? Are you abusing the Trust? Are you walking in Obedience? Have you been totally truthful about your answers to #1-4?

If you have fallen . . . Accountability is critical. Porn is a “private sin” so the temptation is greatest when you are alone. Sharing your struggles with a supportive friend can break the chains! (Select someone trustworthy) Exposing Satan’s lies to the light will pave the way to recovery.

Guidelines BE ATTENTIVE TO YOUR WIFE! Listen to her! Love Her! I Peter 3:7 “Dwell…acc. to knowledge.” Prov. 19:14 “House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.” Love Her! Ecc 9:9 “Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life.”

Prov 5:15-19 “Drink water from your own cistern And fresh water from your own well. Let them be yours alone. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love.” Why?

Guidelines BE ON GUARD Book: “Fallen Men of God.” Neglected devotional life Accountable to no one Never thought it would happen Scary.. I Cor 10:12 Lesson of David: Don’t be over confident.

10 Guidelines No one thinks they need hedges until it is too late! BE ON GUARD! No one thinks they need hedges until it is too late!

He is Able… Three Components: 3 Confession Accountability Mental Transformation 3

Guidelines . . . DETERMINE TO LIVE A PURE LIFE THROUGH MENTAL TRANSFORMATION. Rom 12:1-2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove that which is good and acceptable and perfect. Forget feelings…take Action! It often can precede Attitude. James 4:7 Resist the devil.. And He will flee!

Guidelines . . SIGN AT A GAS STATION: “A Clean Engine Always Delivers Power!” A Clean Heart delivers too! 2 Tim 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.”

II Tim 2:22 Now flee from youthful lusts, pursue righteousness, faith, love [and] peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. Phil 4:8 “Whatsoever is . . . Dwell on . .” Replace selfish, lustful thoughts of women with a Godly view of them! I Cor 13:4-7 - Higher view that transcends lust!

It’s better to light one candle than to stand back and curse the darkness. Turn on the light - invest in relationships! God can erase the images of your past and recast you in His image!

Guidelines RECOGNIZE THE CONSEQUENCES OF SIN Prov 6:32 - Adulterer is ..Fool Prov 6:26 - Adultery will cost a man all that he has!

New Definition of Success “Having those who are the closest to you love and respect you the most.”

Guidelines THINK ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN! Keep a family picture with you. Sexual sins often are passed on: David (Bathsheba) - consider Solomon… Your faithfulness is no guarantee--but it will give them strength. Be determined not to be a stumbling block!

Take Heart . . . II Cor 5:17 “If anyone is in Christ, He is a new creature.”

Oldham Woods Church of Christ Faithful & True PURITY IN MARRIAGE with Brent Hunter a study for men JULY 1, 2007 5:00 p.m. Oldham Woods Church of Christ

Mental Transformation The Battle is in the mind! All deal with sexual images –you do not have to dwell on these thoughts! 2 Cor 10:5 “We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing (stronghold) raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.”