Reality Ride Each decision we make has a consequence. The decisions we make today directly affect the future. Activity:

Why do you often miss the simple solution? “Big View” Opportunity Freedom Self-respect Why will this view give you more self-respect? If you can’t see over the wall, ask yourself, “What step am I tripping on?” (Then put Desire, Time and Effort into that step.) 3 Why does climbing the steps and achieving this view give you endless options? The Motivation Formula Plugging In Who is helping you deal with your challenges? Can you get more help? Lift Weight What laws and rules are making you strong? I will become . . . (My dreams and goals) Defense Mech How did you protect yourself in a pressure situation? Did it help or hurt you? Climbing Out How did you react when someone tried to pull you down? Maze What did you put your desire, time, and effort into today? Failure Hurdles What will motivate you to jump back up when you trip? Drugs What is your current view giving you? Anger Labels How did you show others “the real me,” not the label? Fighting Reality Ride What did you do today to stop the crash, and how can you repeat it? Who Cares “Limited View” I Can’t Family Problems Why do you often miss the simple solution? 2 1 Why Try? If you’re standing here, why is opportunity, freedom, and self-respect hard to get? How will your motivation to change go up with each step that you climb?

Reality Ride Song

Will these things give you lasting . . . 1 2 Goal: 9 What will your reality be when you ride here? At home: At school: With peers: In future: 5 Things that get you in trouble . . . What choices will give you . . . Who can support you? 4 Your Challenges . . . Home: School: Peers: 7 What problems do you keep having over and over? Frustrated Confused Angry Scared You keep getting the same results 3 School Peers Home 8 Start ride over Activities: $20 Decision “Reality” Consequences of crash . . . Will these things give you lasting . . . Opportunity? Freedom? Self-respect? 6

The Hulk Roller Coaster

Tearing off Labels Negative labels can hurt your future, but positive labels can help you achieve your goals and attain better opportunities. Ultimately, the label you wear depends on you: you can change your labels by changing your actions and showing others your strengths and positive traits. Activity:

Miss Understood by Sammie

Four steps to tear off your label: 4 Permission to brag: What do you like about yourself? What do others like about you? Your accomplishments Your strengths, goals and dreams If you were to give yourself a label, what would it be? (Must be positive.) 3 What labels do you have that are getting in the way of your opportunities? 1. Identify: How is your label working for you? 2. Do something different. What behavior needs to change? What do you need to stop doing? (not working for you) What do you need to start doing? (something new) Remember: Same thing = same results 1 What is a label? 3. Focus on your strength. Project the label that you want. Juvenile Delinquent Why is it easy to give up when you have a label? Are these ever an excuse? 2 Failure Druggie Liar Dumb L.D. 4. Repeat what you are doing right. Rebellious Lazy Attitude Problem Thief Remember: It takes time for others to see the change. Dropout Trouble Maker Gang Member Every night ask yourself: What did I do today to tear off the label? How can I do more of this tomorrow? Ungovernable Runaway Angry Bad Example Others:

Don’t Laugh At Me

Wreck it Ralph

Defense Mechanisms Pressure situations are best handled by maintaining control of your emotions and selecting positive defense mechanisms (those that don’t hurt yourself or others). Activity:

Frozen Let It Go

This gives you self-respect. Why? What is a defense mechanism? 1 Who chooses the defense? How do you protect your feelings? Choice 4 Situation 2 How do you respond (act) when: Disrespected Yelled at Put down Laughed at Mad at parent Embarrassed Make a mistake Feel pressure You’re hit You lose Confronted Frustrated Blamed Get caught Hurt Angry Negative Positive Feeling 3 6 Four Steps to Control Your D.M. 1. Recognize the situation. When you are in a pressure situation, these are the signs: You feel angry, frustrated, or nervous. What outward behaviors can you use to help control the pressure? 2. Identify the situations where you can practice step 1. What are the situations you need to practice this? “Easy” “Hard” 3. Don’t let other people control how you will respond. You know someone is trying to control you if they are yelling at you, physically attacking you, or are putting you down. This gives you self-respect. Why? 4. Select a positive solution What would motivate you to do the tougher (harder) thing? What might happen if you stay in control? Defense 5 How do you know when you’ve selected a positive defense mechanism? “When you are helping, not hurting, yourself and others”

Parking Lot Rage

The Motivation Formula You can take your challenges and channel them into positive motivation: first to better yourself, and then to turn outward and help others. Activity:

Channeling Anger and Challenges into Positive Motivation Choice Positive Negative 2 1 Challenges Frustration Fear Anger “The Flood Zone” Damage • Hurting self or others • Less self-respect • Energy dies • Easy – “path of least resistance” Less opportunity and freedom Anger Gratitude

Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect Channeling Anger and Challenges into Positive Motivation Choice Positive Negative 2 1 Challenges Anger 3 Who Are Your Lifelines? Damage Who can help you out of the flood zone at home? At school? With your peers? 4 Use Positive “Self Talk” “The Flood Zone” Less opportunity and freedom Use your inner voice to direct your motivation (energy) in a positive direction (i.e. I will try). It’s a positive direction if you’re not hurting yourself or others) Focus self-talk on what you do have control over. • Hurting self or others • Less self-respect • Energy dies • Easy – “path of least resistance” Anger Gratitude 5 “Character–Heart” You go through the motions and don’t give up out of respect for people who care about you. You don’t give up out of respect for yourself. 6 A Passion Purpose or Interest (Turn outward) 7 If channeled, challenges & anger can be converted into WhyTry? Get Plugged in “Support System” Positive Motivation & Healing Opportunity, Freedom, Self-respect

Kid President

Why Try Climbing Out Music Video

Climbing Out When you put the tools from the visual metaphors into action, and when you develop an awareness of the positive and negative ways that others can influence you, you will be prepared to avoid negative behaviors and their consequences. Activity:

Warning: if you try to get out, you will be attacked! Why? What is the “pot” that you are in? ● 2 How do friends (others) affect you in both positive ways and negative ways? ● 4 When you get in trouble (or in the pot) are you keeping others in, or yourself? How? ● 3 Who wants to see you climb out? Why? ● 5 What are the reasons for staying in the pot? ● 6 What will your future be like if you don’t get out? ● 7 9 What will your future be like when you climb out? ● 1 Why is it difficult for the crabs to climb out of the pot? What are the reasons for getting out of the pot? ● 8 10 What are the tools you can use to get out? ● Warning: if you try to get out, you will be attacked! Why?

Crabs in a pot video

Jumping Your Hurdles Everyone experiences setbacks, but successful people “jump back up” and keep trying. They know that there are certain steps they can use to help them overcome their challenges and achieve success. Activity:

Minecraft-Surviving it

You Only Lose If You Give Up! 2 What have you jumped over?  1. Identify Problem What problem do you really want to overcome? 6 4. Take Action What specific behaviors (actions) do you need to stop or add to jump your hurdle? Stopped Behaviors Added Behaviors . .. What can you jump over?  3 Why should you try to jump your hurdle?  4 What are some options you can create? 2. Create Options 5. Believe in Change On a scale from one to ten, circle where you are in believing change will happen. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. “I can’t change” “Maybe” “I know I have the strength” 3. Get Help Who can help you get over your hurdle? Who can you help? 6. Jump Back Up If you trip, how will jumping back up make you stronger? 1 Your Problem: You Only Lose If You Give Up! What should your “self-talk” be telling you as you try to jump your hurdle? 5 Strengths:  .

How not to hurdle

Famous Failures

Desire, Time, Effort Anything worthwhile in life requires desire, time, and effort. There are no shortcuts to achieving success. You will get much further in life by working hard than by simply relying on your talents or abilities. Activity

The Climb

The next LeBron

Lift the Weight Living by laws and rules and developing self-discipline will make you stronger, opening the doors of opportunity for the future. Activity:

Rocky Theme Song

If ”yes,” keep lifting. If ”no,” create a new workout. 2 What is expected of you from: Parents? (rules) School? (rules) Society? (laws) Myself? (self-discipline) Why do you need resistance to become stronger? 1 Why does this need to be your strongest muscle? 6 Choice What have you given up on? What things get you into the most trouble? 3 Challenge Character “Easy” No Resistance “Hard” Resistance What are three things that you put most of your time and effort into? 1. 2. 3. 4 How does giving up make you weak? What are three new things you could do with your time that will make you stronger? 1. 2. 3. 5 Do any of these things give you opportunity, freedom, and self-respect? If ”yes,” keep lifting. If ”no,” create a new workout.

Weightlifter

Get Plugged In Getting help is not a weakness, it is a strength! Challenges become easier when you have a positive support system to help you overcome them. YOU have the power to create a support system if you don’t have one. YOU have the power to strengthen a support system if your is weak. Activity:

Getting to Know You

Teacher/Counselor/School Official 1 Parent/Guardian How much time are you spending with your parent or guardian? (If you’re not spending at least 30 minutes a day, then create and demand more time!) What is one conflict, argument, or power struggle that you can give up today that won’t hurt you but will help lower your parents’ anxiety about you? 2 Positive Friend Remember: You know you have a “real” friend if they do things that help (not hurt) themselves and you. What could you do to help a friend overcome peer pressure and deal with challenges at home and at school? 3 Teacher/Counselor/School Official These 5 connections will help turn on the “light” to see your future more clearly Make sure that someone at school knows the real you and what you can become with their help. Ask how they will help you reach your dreams and potential? Let them know what you are willing to do, then work together with them to accomplish your goals. 4 Positive Mentor Who can you identify that has accomplished goals and dreams similar to those that you want to accomplish? What are three qualities about them that you respect and admire that you would like to develop also? Take a risk: If possible ask them how they can help you achieve the same thing. 5 Something that inspires or motivates you to do good What motivates you to not hurt yourself or others? What do you do with your time that’s fun, gives you self-respect, and doesn’t get you into trouble? How can you do more of this?

Father Involvement

You Can See Over The Wall When you have a clear vision of your future, you have hope for something better, and life’s challenges become nothing but temporary obstacles. When you have a limited perspective, it is hard to see beyond the day-to-day challenges, and impossible to dream of a brighter future.

Incubus - Drive

Why do you often miss the simple solution? “Big View” Opportunity Freedom Self-respect Why will this view give you more self-respect? If you can’t see over the wall, ask yourself, “What step am I tripping on?” (Then put Desire, Time and Effort into that step.) 3 Why does climbing the steps and achieving this view give you endless options? The Motivation Formula Plugging In Who is helping you deal with your challenges? Can you get more help? Lift Weight What laws and rules are making you strong? I will become . . . (My dreams and goals) Defense Mech How did you protect yourself in a pressure situation? Did it help or hurt you? Climbing Out How did you react when someone tried to pull you down? Maze What did you put your desire, time, and effort into today? Failure Hurdles What will motivate you to jump back up when you trip? Drugs What is your current view giving you? Anger Labels How did you show others “the real me,” not the label? Fighting Reality Ride What did you do today to stop the crash, and how can you repeat it? Who Cares “Limited View” I Can’t Family Problems Why do you often miss the simple solution? 2 1 Why Try? If you’re standing here, why is opportunity, freedom, and self-respect hard to get? How will your motivation to change go up with each step that you climb?

Awareness Test UCLA Squirrels