LUMITY REVIEW Lesson #1

Setting Context for this year Last year, the goal was to help you explore some of the key tools to help you think outside of the box, feel empowered to make decisions, and give you examples of different career paths that you could explore. This year, Lumity is going to continue those lessons, but we are also going to add the component of working with others. Why is it important to know how to work with teams? It’s important for a career environment Friendships Romantic relationships Setting Context for this year

SETTING CONTEXT FOR THIS YEAR We are social beings. Our lives operate with others. This year we are going to give you TOOLS to work with lots different personalities, negotiate boundaries show up in groups to assert yourself share your gifts and also start learning how to give feedback to teams. SETTING CONTEXT FOR THIS YEAR

GROUPS/TEAMS – JOURNAL PROMPTS #1 1). Create a journal that you use for all Lumity lessons. This will be a space for you to reflect on what you are learning and how you are using the tools in this curriculum. You will have at least one entry per week. You will submit them online. 2).Journal Entry #1 Week of 10.5.2015 Directions: Answer each question in complete sentences. What you are excited about with your team? What concerns do you have about working with a team? What skills, gifts do you have that you can contribute to your team? GROUPS/TEAMS – JOURNAL PROMPTS #1

2). Describe one thing you feel you are good at in teams/relationships As part of the Lumity lessons, you are going to work in teams. How are you feeling about this? Any stinking thinking? Planning for this Year Directions: Answer each statement, in complete sentences. These answers will be collected and count as a grade and help with planning all your Lumity lessons this year. 1). Describe one thing you want to learn about working with other people/teams 2). Describe one thing you feel you are good at in teams/relationships 3). Describe a belief you have about working with teams.

HOMEWORK –DUE: Thursday, Oct. 15, 2015 Find an example of a team that you admire. It can be a sports team, a team from a movie or television show. On October 15, 2015, students will turn in: An article, publication, or news story OR A video clip A written story/description which introduces the team, overviews or captures the team dynamic Write a paragraph explaining why you chose this team and what you learned about team dynamics, and one aspect of that team that you would like to see in your tutorial/Lumity group HOMEWORK –DUE: Thursday, Oct. 15, 2015

Fixed vs. Growth Mindset

People with a fixed mindset… Believe intelligence and personality traits are innate. Think in terms of right and wrong See feedback as an indictment Are less willing to try new things 

People with a growth mindset… Believe that there is room for development and growth See their mistakes as information about where they can develop Are open to accurate information about their current abilities, even if it’s unflattering.

Why is this an important life hack? Enjoy life, even when you’re not good at it Improve your self-insight and self-esteem Improve your relationships Avoid stress about being perfect Strengthen your confidence See single events as just that See setbacks as useful Enjoy putting in time and effort, rather than fearing them Lower your risk of depression Be better at taking responsibility for your life

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

Self-fulfilling prophecy Our beliefs about what we think we can accomplish and what others tell us we can accomplish have a huge impact on how we interact with people and what we get out of those interactions. We are more likely to become what we truly believe we are - whether it’s true or not. Self-fulfilling prophecy

What others believe about us How we act How others act toward us What we believe about ourselves

We are what we expect What we believe becomes our experience, not because it is the only option, but because we choose to act in ways that affirm our beliefs Interrupting the self-fulfilling prophecy cycle at any stage can begin to change what we believe is possible.

What’s the good news? Self-fulfilling prophecies aren’t always a bad thing (they are what we make them). The more you orient to positive beliefs, the more your brain will use them (choose those beliefs) over the negative ones.

Drama Triangle

Drama Triangle

The three roles Victim See responsibility as outside of themselves Find others to blame Persecutor Make other people bad and wrong Shame others Rescuer Save the day Avoid their own responsibilities Justify the actions of others The three roles

How the drama triangle limits you Keeps you in a fixed mindset Avoid choices and possibilities Keep your old self-fulfilling prophecies Defined by other people rather than self-defining How the drama triangle limits you

Understanding Your Emotions A Motivating Resource

Fear Hurt Anger Sadness Joy Primary Emotions

Benefits of Emotions Provide energy and motivation to reach goals Help us learn Help our memory Critical for decision making Benefits of Emotions

Black or Blue Pen?

Every Emotion Has a Purpose Each Emotion Has a Purpose Fear: warns us about danger Hurt: helps us stay safe, tells us about our limits Anger: tells us when something is against our values Sadness: signals the loss of something important Joy: signals that things are in a good place

Emotions in the Body Where do you feel fear? Where do you feel hurt? Each emotion has a different response in our body. Where do you feel fear? Where do you feel hurt? Where do you feel anger? Where do you feel sadness? Where do you feel joy? Emotions in the Body

Get to Know Your Brain

The Brain

Regions of the Brain Brain = our control center 3 Main Regions: Primitive – automatic functions: breathing, heart beat, balance/movement, scanning for threats, known as the LIZARD BRAIN Feeling – source of our emotional and social impulses: anger, fear, etc., activated by threats known as the MOUSE BRAIN Thinking – most developed part of brain; stores memory, helps us plan, imagine, find solutions, communicate with others, can control feelings. The source of our likes/dislikes, hopes, ambition known as the HUMAN BRAIN Regions of the Brain

The Brain Use 20% of your body’s energy Over 100 billion neurons – store information Neural pathways = the roads that connect your neurons The brain in your most complex organ Connects everything The Brain

Regions of the Brain Brain = our control center 3 Main Regions: Primitive – automatic functions: breathing, heart beat, balance/movement, scanning for threats, known as the LIZARD BRAIN Feeling – source of our emotional and social impulses: anger, fear, etc., activated by threats known as the MOUSE BRAIN Thinking – most developed part of brain; stores memory, helps us plan, imagine, find solutions, communicate with others, can control feelings. The source of our likes/dislikes, hopes, ambition known as the HUMAN BRAIN Regions of the Brain

Brain Plasticity Also called neuroplasticity The lifelong ability of the brain to reorganize neural pathways based on new experiences Habits = well-traveled neural pathways in our brain The ability of the brain to change with learning Focus and build up the pathways we want to strengthen Neural pathways we ignore (old habits) can die off Brain Plasticity

Your Teenage Brain Now is the best time to hard-wire your brain! If you “exercise” your brain you can: Learn to order your thoughts Understand abstract concepts Control your brain’s impulses What you do now will serve you for the rest of your life. Your Teenage Brain

Your Teenage Brain Your brain is developing until you reach your 20s. You get 2 periods of “overproduction” of the brain’s grey matter: During your first 18 months During your teenage years After this “overproduction” period “unused” neuron connections wither away Your Teenage Brain

Which would you rather practice for? It’s up to you! You can decide what you want to hard-wire your brain for by focusing on those activities, such as: Sports Playing a musical instrument Math Public speaking Or, you focus instead on: Sitting on the couch and watching TV Spending hours on Facebook and Instagram Which would you rather practice for? It’s up to you!