Knowing Me.. Knowing You.. June/July 2017 Good Morning and welcome to the Regional Coaching Conference. Timings and Content for days Over the next hour we are going to focus on yourself and start and really understand who you really are (how you behave, how you communicate etc and what impact that has on others. It is vitally important for you to have a better awareness and ultimately a better understanding of this to enable you to learn and develop. June/July 2017

The word in this slide that I want you to keep referring back to and really understanding is the word ‘journey’ and the learning that will take place as you go through your coaching career. I would encourage you all to identify different learning opportunities on the way. Enjoy your journey and learn from the different experiences.

The 6cs The following 6 key words are the key ingredients in your learning journey as a coach. I want you to consider them and what they mean to you….. June/July 2017

Conscious For me these words have really resonated with over the years, being involved in designing, delivering and participating in similar learning journeys. Some you may connect with you, some may not. I would just encourage you to sit back and think about these words and what they could mean for you in the context of your coaching journey. The key words in the next four slides are purely to direct my thinking around what we (collectively) design and deliver in terms of coach learning opportunities across the pathway. So very much the aim is design and deliver progressive coach leaning opportunities at every stage of the pathway.

Character Your character will be ever present in your coaching style and behaviour. Think about what type of character you want to be… Take a few minutes to read this slide.

Consistency We need to think about a consistency of behaviour with our athletes. How do we show up on poolside on a daily basis??

Challenge You are going to be challenged, by yourselves, your peers, situations, the environment, your athletes and its about how you accept these challenges

Curious How curious, nosey are you….. I would encourage you to inquire with each other, to stimulate and accelerate your learning Curiosity –So we will be encouraging our coaches through conversations and opportunities to be more curious in there learning. We are encouraging our swimmers to ask more questions and to be more inquisitive we should be encouraging this in our coaches. So the programmes we run will lead to curious thinking.

Connections Finally What Connections can we make in the pathway; learning journey; people and situations. How you can connect what you hear back to your own environment What new connections do you need to create as a result of what you hear Being aware of your role within these connections.

How are you going to get there? Who are you ? Who are you? Who are you really? Where are you going? How are you going to get there? Getting to know yourself and really understanding yourself is key is important because when we have a better understanding of ourselves, we are able to experience ourselves as unique and separate individuals. We are then empowered to make changes and to build on our areas of strength as well as identify areas where we would like to make improvements. Self-awareness is often a first step to goal setting. Self-awareness is being conscious of what you're good at while acknowledging what you still have yet to learn. This includes admitting when you don't have the answer and owning up to mistakes. In our highly competitive culture, this can seem counterintuitive. In fact, many of us operate on the belief that we must appear as though we know everything all the time or else people will question our abilities, and then perhaps judge us. If you're honest with yourself, you'll admit that really the opposite is true. Because whether you acknowledge your weaknesses or not, everyone still sees them. So rather than conceal them, the person who tries to hide weaknesses actually highlights them, creating the perception of a lack of integrity and self-awareness. So who are you and who are you really and where do you want to go and how are you going to get there are important questions to start asking yourself in your journey as a coach.

What do we see… What do we all see in the picture. Take a few minutes to observe and share… We all see different things and take different things from situations.

How we see the world depends on the lenses we look through.. So we all see the world in different ways and it is important to recognise this about ourselves and others as this will help to manage how we react.

Activity 1 - Try this challenge – 15 mins Think about describing yourself to another person without mentioning anything about the external things that are in your life, your friends, family, what you look like, studying etc. Concentrate only on yourself, how you feel and behave, perhaps recognising some of your strengths and weaknesses. Did you manage to explore your thoughts, feelings and behaviours?

Self Awareness Starting Point is being more aware of ourselves and how are behaviours/actions impact on others…… what we say and how we say it… Developing Self Awareness is critical to your ongoing learning and therefore critical in understanding how effective you are as an impactful communicator Before we start it is vitally important to understand in order to best help others and develop others i.e. athletes and coaches we must have a heightened awareness of ourselves and how our behaviours impact on others Self-awareness involves being aware of different aspects of the self including traits, behaviors, and feelings. Essentially, it is a psychological state in which oneself becomes the focus of attention.

Self Awareness This just provides an overview of what is seen to the outside world and what is known to yourself and be aware how this effects our communication. Explain the model – in what is seen but what drives our behaviours and actions and how this translates in the way we communicate. It’s easy to get caught up in irrational thoughts and beliefs and live out internal dramas that can severely affect the way we perceive ourselves and consequently determine our feelings and actions. Relationships are easy until there is emotional turmoil. This is the same whether you are at work or in your personal life. When you can change the interpretation in your mind of what you think, you can change your emotions and shift the emotional quality of your relationships. When you can change the emotions in your relationships you open up entirely new possibilities in your life. Having a clear understanding of your thought and behaviour patterns helps you understand other people. This ability to empathise facilitates better personal and professional relationships.

Courage It takes courage, confidence and an element of vulnerability to really show up as who we really are….

Johari Window A model for self awareness – this is just one model of self awareness.. A simple and useful tool for understanding and training selfawareness, personal development, improving communications, interpersonal relationships, group dynamics, team development and intergroup relationships 􀂄 Developed by American psychologists Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in the 1950's, calling it 'Johari' after combining their first names, Joe and Harry 􀂄 Especially relevant due to emphasis on, and influence of, 'soft' skills, behaviour, empathy, cooperation, inter-group development and interpersonal Also referred to as a 'disclosure/feedback model of self awareness', and an 'information processing tool' 􀂄 Represents information - feelings, experience, views, attitudes, skills, intentions, motivation, etc - within or about a person - in relation to their team, from four perspectives Called 'regions' or 'areas' or 'quadrants'. 􀂄 Each contains and represents the information - feelings, motivation, etc – in terms of whether the information is known or unknown by the person, and whether the information is known or unknown by others in the team 􀂄 The four regions, areas, quadrants, or perspectives are as follows, showing the quadrant numbers and commonly used names

The Johari Window can be looked at from many angles and provides four basic forms of the Self (the Known, Hidden, Blind, and Unknown Self). The Johari Window is a very helpful internal and external communication grid (intra-psychic and interpersonal). You may find it quite useful as you journey forward into the discovery of who you are. The Known Self is what you and others see in you. This is the part that you are able to discuss freely with others. Most of the time you agree with this view you have and others have of you. The Hidden Self is what you see in yourself but others don’t. In this part you hide things that are very private about yourself. You do not want this information to be disclosed for the reason of protection. It could also be that you may be ashamed of these areas and feel a vulnerability to having your faults and weaknesses exposed. This area equally applies to your good qualities that you don’t want to advertise to the world due to modesty. The Blind Self is what you don’t see in yourself but others see in you. You might see yourself as an open-minded person when, in reality, people around you don’t agree. This area also works the other way. You might see yourself as a “dumb” person while others might consider you incredibly bright. Sometimes those around you might not tell you what they see because they fear offending you. It is in this area that people sometimes detect that what you say and what you do don’t match and sometimes body-language shows this mismatch. The Unknown Self is the self that you cannot see, others can’t see it either. In this category there might be good and bad things that are out of the awareness of others and you. This might refer to untapped potential talents and skills that have yet to be explored by you, your friends, colleagues or managers. In summary 1. Open area, open self, free area, free self, or 'the arena‘: what is known by the person about him/herself and is also known by others - 2. Blind area, blind self, or 'blindspot‘: what is unknown by the person about him/herself but which others know 3. Hidden area, hidden self, avoided area, avoided self or 'façade’: what the person knows about him/herself that others do not know 4. Unknown area or unknown self: what is unknown by the person about him/herself and is also unknown by others

COACHING PHILOSOPHY… Why do we do what we do? A Coaching Philosophy is a personal statement that is based on the values and beliefs that direct ones coaching behaviours.’ Kidman and Hanrahan1997 So who are we when we coach?? It is important to start thinking if you have not already around your coaching philosophy. Does anyone have coaching philosophy? Read text on slide

Coaching Philosophy The critical ingredients of your philosophy: Identifying your values Recognising past experiences - life script Role models What is a coaching philosophy made up of? What are your values? Determination, resilient, truth, care, loyal Remembering your life journey; the ups and downs in this Who have had an impact on you; positive and negative All of the above will influence your coaching philosophy and therefore how you coach…

Activity 2 List 6 –8 words or ‘Trademarks’ that are important to you (values and beliefs) Explain to the person next to you why they are important. Why they stand for YOU as a coach. Discuss and collate on your table I would encourage you all from today to go and start and think about ‘what do you stand for in your coaching’ how do you show up on deck; behaviour etc. Try and describe this in words….