GETTING THE POSITION WOMEN OF INFLUENCE CONFERENCE HONG KONG INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL OCTOBER 13-15, 2017 ellendstern@gmail.com

PATHWAYS TO LEADERSHIP LIFE STORIES, WOMEN AND MEN MANY WAYS TO BE A LEADER MANY DIFFERENT STYLES OF LEADERSHIP GENDERED EXPECTATIONS RESUMES

LEADERSHIP STYLES FEMALE MALE Task-focused Transformational Prefer flat organizational structures Promote cooperation and collaboration Indirect communication Mentoring and training others MALE Goal focused Transactional Prefer hierarchical structures Focus on performance Direct communication Like to create competition

WHAT WE LEARN FROM PLAY TEAM SPORTS: HOW TO PROCESS AND RELATIONAL PLAY: HOW TO Be aggressive Treat others nicely Win or lose Avoid conflict Be in charge or follow Build and preserve relationships Set goals and achieve them collaborate Play with people you don’t like and compete with people you like Avoid conflict/risks Develop game plans, take risks, strategize Ensure everyone has a part Lois Frankel, p

GENDER AND LEADERSHIP Images of a “LEADER”: general coach, father “The Good School” study, Sara Lawrence Lightfoot On interaction between leaders and organizations Success? Sensitivity to institutional culture A trusted intimate Dependent on relationships Nurturing Collective authority “Leadership (of a “Good School”) demands the subtle integration of personal qualities traditionally attached to male and female images.”

NICE GIRLS DON’T GET THE CORNER OFFICE Lois P Frankel Success comes not from acting more like a man, but more like a woman—than a girl You act in ways consistent with your socialization and in response to your cultural expectations Being nice is necessary, but not sufficient Continue to learn about your style, what works, where you get stuck Find ways to complement your natural style with new behaviors ASK FOR FEEDBACK!

INTERVIEWING SKYPE OR FACE TO FACE Get comfortable Practice, Practice. Practice Do your homework “Memorize” their website Comment on something positive or surprising Beware of long answers Most listeners have short attention spans

SKYPE Check lighting Check angle of camera Check noise in background Plan not to be interrupted Do dress and prep as you would for a face to face.

ON FINDING THE BALANCE Promoting yourself vs. sounding self centered “How do you see your strengths and weaknesses?” “What is your leadership style?” “What would your colleagues say about you?” “What would students say about you?” “What would parents say about you?”

BE PREPARED WHAT WILL THEY ASK YOU? GIVE ME AN EXAMPLE OF… Easy when it’s something that went well Tough when they ask about something that didn’t work Be ready Don’t hang yourself SITUATIONS Tell me about a time when.. How did you handle xxx….

How Not to Blow an Interview Robert Sternberg Ask in advance if they have any particular concerns about you Don't assure people that your great idea will work for them because it worked elsewhere. Find out the hot-button issues on the campus in advance. Don't try to solve the institution's problems in the interview. Assume that anything you say to anyone in the interview could end up in the local news or somewhere on the Web. Never lie about anything, no matter how small. Try to understand how you might fit in to the institution's vision of its future. Know the hiring institution's story of its past. Don't assume you know who holds the real power. Be enthusiastic.

“Twelve Ways to Blow a Job Interview” further thoughts… Answer the question you are asked If you don’t know or haven’t done it, say so Keep answers focused and brief Make eye contact with everyone You can always say you don’t know enough about the school if they ask you your opinion about something they’re doing or want you to do Don’t negotiate until offered the job You will get better with practice! Relax and be yourself!

OK. SO YOU DIDN’T GET THE JOB…NOW WHAT? We have all not gotten a job we thought we were perfect for what we thought we wanted It’s what you do next that counts!

Ask the selection committee or recruiter for feedback (they may just say, “We had a candidate who was a better fit”) If they give you usable feedback, follow up on it Continue to look for the best match possible Keep applying You won’t get a job if you don’t get an interview and you won’t get an interview unless you apply Continue to seek out experiences to help you be better prepared for the interview and the job.

"Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flow charts "Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flow charts. It is about one life influencing another." John C. Maxwell