How Credible Coaches Create Confident Competitors With David Benzel Founder, Growing Champions for Life, Inc. Copyright © 2012, Growing Champions for Life

How Do We Know If a Coach is Effective? What’s the criteria? What do the fans say it is? What is meant by “credibility”? A B

Make four observations about this picture. 1._________ 2._________ 3._________ 4._________

never perform higher true improve believe Athletes ______ __________ consistently at a level _______ than what they believe to be _____ about themselves. never perform higher true Therefore our challenge as coaches is to help athletes _______ what they _______ to be true about them. improve believe "There is but one cause of human failure. And that  is man's lack of faith in his true Self.“ – William James

How We Influence Others, and What it Manifests Creativity Resistance FORCE POWER OR Control Manipulation Negative Energy Choices Attraction Positive Energy

Concern for Performance Concern for Self-esteem Styles of Influence High TIGER HERO Accept & Challenge Command & Control Concern for Performance SUPPLIER HELICOPTER Tolerate & Endure Hover & Protect Low High Concern for Self-esteem

“Who Do You Think You Are?” “How good do you want to be at this?” “Here’s what I’m going to do to you.” “Who Do You Think You Are?” High TIGER Message “You are how you perform… and therefore a project” HERO Message “You are a wonderful creation and therefore valuable, and full of potential.” “Here’s what I’m going to do for you.” Concern for Performance “Good luck; you’re on your own.” SUPPLIER Message “You are a circumstance… and therefore a problem.” HELICOPTER Message “You are what others say you are, at risk of being hurt, and entitled.” Low High Concern for Self-esteem Copyright © Growing Champions for Life 2011

Concern for Performance Concern for Self-esteem Influencing Parents High TIGER HERO Accept & Challenge Command & Control Concern for Performance SUPPLIER HELICOPTER Tolerate & Endure Hover & Protect Low High Concern for Self-esteem Copyright © Growing Champions for Life 2011

The heart of influence beats stronger than the voice of control. Compliance Commitment Focused on Control Focused on Growth Positional Force Personal Power Fear/Judge/Intimidate Controlled w/ rules Ridicule Criticism Shame & Guilt Respect/Trust/Accept Influenced by values Choices Challenges Encouragement “Required” performers “Inspired” performers

Dr. Carol Dweck’s Study – “Mindset” Not All Praise is Created Equal “Wow! You must be very smart.” “Wow! You must have worked really hard.” Preferred to choose easy tasks in order to look “smart”. Preferred to work hard in order to learn more. Group #1 Group #2 Dr. Carol Dweck’s Study – “Mindset”

Why some talented athletes never achieve success? The Fixed Mindset A belief that my talents & abilities are fixed. Rule #1: Rule #2: Rule #3: The Growth Mindset A belief that my talents and abilities can be developed. Rule #1: Rule #2: Work with passion and dedication – Rule #3: Embrace your _________ and confront your deficiencies. Look talented at all costs. Learn, learn, learn! Don’t work too hard or practice too much. effort is the key. When faced with setbacks, run away or hide your deficiencies. mistakes Adapted from “Mindsets: Developing Talent Through a Growth Mindset” by Carol Dweck, Stanford University.

Mindset is taught by the way we praise The things coaches say that reinforce a Fixed Mindset. The things coaches say that reinforce a Growth Mindset. Looking talented is the key Learn, learn, learn… Effort is the key! I’m impressed with your work ethic. You’re so talented. You’re very fast. I like how you stuck with it. You’re a quick learner. Your serves are improving because of your steady work. You’re so coordinated. You showed terrific patience today. You’re a smart player. Your attention to pitch selection was noticeable.

The Coaching Paradox david@growingchampionsforlife.com “Your most powerful asset is your ability to help young athletes see and dwell upon the greatness that lies within them, not their deficiencies.” - David Benzel, Sport Family Coach david@growingchampionsforlife.com