Chapter 7: “Dating” Mrs. Karen Swope Family and Consumer Sciences Columbian high School

Functions of Dating: Can help you get to know others Can learn how others ____ and ______. Can learn about others ______ and _______ .

Functions of Dating: Can help you know yourself By sharing _____ with _______, helps you understand your own thoughts and feelings.

Functions of Dating: Provides companionship Date to be with someone May attend a function with someone as _______________. Companionship dating is ________________.

Functions of Dating: Improve communication skills Dating provides an opportunity to talk and listen. It is important to reach ______________ to build any relationship.

Functions of Dating: Helps you learn to negotiate. To negotiate fairly, one must learn to consider the other person’s opinion. Both parties must learn to _________.

Functions of Dating: Helps you learn to be responsible. Dating provides opportunity to be __________ for decisions made. Must be responsible for __________ made to each other.

Functions of Dating: Helps you evaluate personality traits Dating helps you learn what ______________ you enjoy and those you don’t. Helps you identify what you are looking for in a ________________.

Stages of the Dating Process: Group dating: begins informally from being in __________________. Pair dating: from the group, __________________. Steady dating: two people ___________________each other.

Beginning a Relationship Make your appearance ________ . Be friendly, confident, and _________. Start a conversation, ask questions, be a ________________. Plan to spend more time together.

Evaluating a Dating Relationship Evaluating helps you decide if you should continue in the relationship or not. Ask yourself the following: do we enjoy being together? Can we compromise, _________________, and communicate openly? Can we share our ______________?

Personal Boundaries Personal boundaries are ___________ that you are willing to accept in your relationship. This applies to what you will say or do. This applies to what you will __________________________________. If one person forces the other to do something outside of his/her personal boundaries, it is a sign of abuse.

Ending a Relationship Realize your partner may feel hurt, be sensitive, show empathy. Change __________________, avoid familiar places that remind you of each other. Recognize feelings of pain, loneliness are normal. Get ________________ to meet new people.

Two Categories of Love INFATUATION (Romantic) *strong feelings of attachment *begins quickly, ends quickly *based on physical traits *tends to be self-centered, feelings of jealousy, doubt may be common MATURE LOVE *feelings become stronger as the relationship grows *based on giving, unselfish attitude. *leads to feelings of trust, self-confidence, security, happiness.

Ancient Greek Forms of Love Philos: _________ love, what close friends feel for each other. Eros: __________ feelings a couple may feel for each other Agape: the ________________ kind of love; giving up something out of love for another.

Summary In our culture, formal and informal dating serves many important functions. Dating usually proceeds through several stages. A couple’s attraction may be short lived based on romantic feelings or infatuation. Mature love grows deeper as the couple spend time together, sharing their thoughts and feeling with each other and putting the other person first. The ancient Greeks had their ideas on love.