Boys Are from Mars, Girls Are From Venus Sue Bohlin Probe Ministries sue@probe.org Suebohlin.com
Not All Kids Are the Same Active,athletic Sensitive, creative Tomboy, jockette Girly-girl
Boys Girls Sense of self: relationships Sense of self: achievement Relationally-oriented Connected to others Ask for help = compliment Sense of self: achievement Have to have something to do Self-reliant Ask for help = weakness
Boys Girls Cooperative Competitive
Boys Girls Multi-taskers: juggle many little things at once Connected (like a ball of yarn) Linear: focus on one thing at a time Compartmentalized (like a chest of drawers)
Boys Girls Action-oriented Hostility: physical Verbal Hostility: verbal
Boys Girls Need a goal Enjoy the process
Boys Girls Bond shoulder to shoulder Bond face to face
Girls Empathy nurturers: Relating to and understanding others’ feelings Compassion Softness Tenderness Comfort
Aggression nurturers: Boys Aggression nurturers: Physically aggressive touch and words Challenging Competition “You’re OK, get up”
Boys Girls Primarily needs cherishing Primarily needs respect Tender care, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, reassurance Needs to be protected. Primarily needs respect Trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, encouragement Needs to be needed.