EDA 6061 Organization and Administration in Schools University of Central Florida Balancing A Successful Professional Career and a Happy Family

Goals for Module 8 Each of you will have the opportunity to become aware of Emotional Intelligence and how it promotes your capacity as a savvy school leader. Each of you will have the opportunity to gain an awareness of the educational leadership concepts, principles, and theories being presented by a wide variety of modern day authors and researchers.

Goals for Module 8 Each of you will have the opportunity to gain some insight into how to balance a successful professional career and family life.

Leadership Quotation “It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head -- it is the unique intersection of both.” David Caruso, Emotional What?

Emotional Intelligence Let’s have a conversation on how emotional intelligence can promote your capacity as a school leader: Daniel Goleman, who has worked with people in hundreds of companies worldwide. Daniel Goleman concludes that emotional intelligence is the most important factors in success at work and in life.

Emotional Intelligence: Goleman’s 5 Components Daniel Goleman offers 5 components of Emotional Intelligence for the savvy school leader Self-awareness: A savvy school leader always appears self-confident. Self-regulation : We can’t do away with the biological impulses that drive our emotions, but we can learn to manage them. Self-regulated school leaders have trustworthiness and integrity. Their comfortable with ambiguous situations and their open to change.

Emotional Intelligence: Goleman’s 5 Components Motivation - A savvy school leader is driven to achieve simply for the sake of achievement Empathy - A Savvy school leader has the ability to understand an consider another person’s feelings. Social Skill - A savvy school leader has the ability to manage relationships

Emotional intelligence: Shaw’s 9 Components Kenneth Shaw, Chancellor Emeritus, for Syracuse University presents the following nine components of emotional intelligence 1. Ability to deal constructively with reality 2. Ability to adapt to change 3. Relative freedom from excessive anxiety and tension

Emotional intelligence: Shaw’s 9 Components 4. Ability to find satisfaction in both giving and receiving 5. Ability to form and maintain close relationships 6. Wisdom to differentiate between the impossible and the possible

Emotional intelligence: Shaw’s 9 Components 7. Skill to redirect hostile energy into constructive outlets 8. Ability to be love yourself and to love others. 9. Willingness to self-evaluate

Emotional intelligence: What Others Are Saying “We define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one's thinking and actions.” - Salovey & Mayer (1990), Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence: What Others Are Saying “The ability to process emotional information, particularly as it involves the perception, assimilation, understanding, and management of emotion.“ - Mayer & Cobb (2000) Educational policy on emotional intelligence: Does it make sense?

Emotional intelligence: What Others Are Saying "Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80% of the "success" in our lives." - Freeman et al, Handle With Care: Emotional Intelligence Activity Book

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Balancing Professional Work and Family Let’s use the analogy that each spoke on a bicycle tire represents a part or your life. What would happen if one or more of the spokes of the bicycle tire weren’t long enough to support the tire?

Balancing A Successful Professional Career and a Happy Family Even when we eat breakfast with our family, although we are physically still at home, we have already started our workday. Most people don’t want to follow a leader who loses his/her health or family because they work all the time. Most people want to follow a leader who is balanced in all areas, not just work.

Balancing A Successful Professional Career and a Happy Family Most of our day does not happen between 8-5 (our workday). But we spend a great deal of time, energy and anxiety worrying about what happens between 8-5 (our workday).

Create a Balance Between Career and Family To create a balance between career and family, we much learn the practice of the right to forget. We must, at least, temporarily set aside specific issues and problems that seem to interfere with this balance.

Dr Doherty’s 10 Suggestions on How to Balance Career and Family 1. Set limits on the time and energy you plan to devote to various tasks. 2. Set priorities, and do not try to complete the priorities all a once. 3. Acknowledge that you can’t control everything.

Dr Doherty’s 10 Suggestions on How to Balance Career and Family 4. Find to find humor, even in some of the most difficult issues. 5. Forgive yourself for making mistakes. 6. Plan well, to avoid conflicts with important family events and your career obligations.

Dr Doherty’s 10 Suggestions on How to Balance Career and Family 7. Try to avoid unhappy and manipulative people. 8. Eat meals with your family. Block out work when you are talking with family members and trying to sleep. 10. Don’t let the good things in life prevent you from experiencing the best things in life.

End of Module Assignment Professional Self-Reflection on My Practice. Questions to ask yourself. In your current position: Do you now see a real need to balance your professional and family life?

- Post an abstract of their school leadership book review The School Leadership Book, Abstract, Comments and Paper Are Due for the Module 8 PLC At the completion of this module it is expected that the Module 8 PLC members will: - Post an abstract of their school leadership book review - Comment on the abstracts of the members in their PLC - E-mail the school book review paper to the instructor for review and grading. Module 4

Module 8 PLC Members The members of Module 8 PLC Atlantic Beach Elementary School, will be posting their abstracts. Each class member is expected to post their comment for each abstract posted. The comment is to answer the following reflection question How the main concepts and theories presented in each of the book reviews presented, have the potential to enhance your knowledge and skill as a savvy school leader? Module 6