Social Etiquette and Dining-In, Dining-Out

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Usually the cadet group/wing commander hosting the Dining-In Protocol Netiquette Receiving line President of the Mess 1 (LE100-C1L6:VQ14)

Lesson Overview Etiquette and manners in formal and informal settings Dining etiquette Handling social invitations Public courtesies Dining-In and Dining-Out Chapter 1, Lesson 6

Click the Show/Hide Response Display Button Quick Write What do you think are good rules and practices for courtesy and etiquette in the 21st century? Make a list of five specific things that you do to show courtesy and etiquette in your everyday life. Note to Instructors: Click the Show/Hide Response Display Button Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

Etiquette and Manners Etiquette is a code of behavior or courtesy based on rules of a polite society. Manners are socially correct ways of acting as shown in widespread customs. Manners are based on: Kindness, Respect, Thoughtfulness, and, Consideration Treat others the same way we want to be treated Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

Social Introductions Introductions make everyone feel welcome and part of the group Should be simple, direct, and dignified Should be made automatically and immediately Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

Speak names slowly and clearly Social Introductions Speak names slowly and clearly Apologize and ask the person to restate their name if you forget Put your cell phone away Mention something of common interest to start a conversation Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

Introductions in Formal and Informal Settings A formal reception may include a receiving line: “Receiving line” which is a group of people, including the host and honored guests, who stand in line and individually welcome guests attending a function. A simple, pleasant greeting and a cordial handshake are all that is necessary In informal situations, you may be more casual Chapter 1, Lesson 6

Introductions in Formal and Informal Settings Whenever someone extends his or her hand to greet you, always extend your hand in return A proper handshake is brief, firm, and warm Maintain eye contact Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

A group of people, including the host and honored guests, who stand in line and individually welcome guests attending a function Protocol Netiquette Receiving line President of the Mess 1 (LE100-C1L6:VQ3)

When making introductions, if you forget a persons name you should: skip introductions. ask a fellow cadet. use a generic title, such as Sir. apologize and ask the persons name. 1 (LE100-C1L6:LQ3)

Activity 1: Making Introductions Introduce yourself with the proper verbal greeting and handshake When finished, rotate all the way around until you greet everyone Chapter 1, Lesson 6

Dining Etiquette Proper manners should be used whenever you dine Relaxed politeness is the key Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

The Dining-In and Dining-Out The Dining-In and Dining-Out are similar in tradition and activities They come from General Hap Arnold from World War Two Wing-Dings were the foundation of the Dining-In/Out Key Roles are the President of the Mess and Mister or Madam Vice President of the Mess is the Cadet CC hosting the Dining-In Mister or Madam Vice is the Master of Ceremonies and lead planer The Dining-In and Dining-Out is an occasion where formal ceremony and tradition combine with good fellowship Dinning-In, it is only for military members (JROTC Only) Dinning-Out, non-military members are invited “your plus one” Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of MSgt Dale C. Hanson II

The Military Ball A military event that is formal but not as rigid as Dinning In or Out You can bring a guest Careful planning is needed to ensure success Invitations should be sent out as early as possible Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Michael Wetzel/US Air Force JROTC

POW-MIA Ceremony POW-MIA Ceremony: A solemn remembrance ceremony for the men and women in all five services who were prisoners of war and are missing in action Recognize the presence, in spirit, of those POWs and MIAs Chapter 1, Lesson 6

Usually the cadet group/wing commander hosting the Dining-In Protocol Netiquette Receiving line President of the Mess 1 (LE100-C1L6:VQ14)

What Should You Wear to JROTC Social Events? Formal (Dinning In-Out and Military Ball) Male cadets (Semi-Formal Uniform) Females (Semi-Formal for Dinning In and Out and Prom Dress for Military Ball) Informal Males (JROTC Polo or Unit T-Shirt) Females (JROTC Polo or Unit T-Shirt) Chapter 1, Lesson 6

Take – Shake - Salute You are being presented a award from Senior Aerospace Science Instructor (SASI) or other military officer, follow these rules: 1. Offer the left hand to receive the award. 2. Offer the right hand to shake the officer’s hand. 3. Finally, come to attention, face the officer, and render the proper hand salute. Be sure to hold your salute until the officer returns your salute. Chapter 1, Lesson 6

A Formal Dining Table Setting Start with the outside piece of silverware and work inward The number of pieces of silverware indicates the number of courses BMW= “Bread-Meal-Water” Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

Formal Invitations and You RSVP means that you must reply to the hosts to let them know if you can or cannot attend the function to which you’ve been invited Call or send your reply within two or three days (sending your reply by letter or email should be you first choice) Make sure you inform your host if you are bringing a guest if asked in the invitation Chapter 1, Lesson 6

Thank-You Note Write a thank-you note within two or three days Be yourself in the note Use sincerity and simplicity Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

What does the number of pieces of silverware indicate? Length of the dinner Formality of the dinner Number of courses Specific menu items 1 (LE100-C1L6:LQ4)

For a meal in a formal setting, the acronym BMW is what? Bread, Meal, and Water Bavarian Motor Works Bread, Lunch, Water Begin, Munchies, Water 1 (LE100-C1L6:LQ4)

It is polite to RSVP to an invitation within _____ day(s). one two or three four or five seven to ten 1 (LE100-C1L6:LQ5)

A formal dinner to which non-military guests are invited Dining-In Dining-Out Protocol Comradeship 1 (LE100-C1L6:VQ11)

Proper Netiquette It’s important to use proper netiquette Telephone Courtesy Cell Phones Text Messaging Email Netiquette Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

Other Public Courtesies Assisting the Elderly and Disabled Opening Doors for Others Being Responsible for Your Guest Respect for Authorities and Senior Citizens Chewing Gum Waiting in Line Politeness Hygiene and Grooming Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia

Summary Etiquette and manners in formal and informal settings Dining etiquette Handling social invitations Public courtesies Dining-In and Dining-Out Chapter 1, Lesson 6

Next…. Done – social etiquette and Dining-In, Dining-Out Next – note taking and study skills Chapter 1, Lesson 6 Photo Courtesy of Fotolia