Talking about SEX is awkward!

Affection Greek: Storge Definition: affection, especially of parents to offspring; but also offspring to parent.1 Example: Mother nursing a baby.2 Lewis, 31 Lewis, 32

Affection3 Need-love: What it needs is to give. Gift Love: It needs to be needed. 3. Lewis, 32

Affection4 Can enter into the other loves and color them all through and become the very medium in which from day to day they operate. This blending of the loves is well kept before us because they all have a common expression, the kiss. 4. Lewis, 34-35

Affection5 Loves the unattractive Does not expect too much Turns a blind eye to faults Revives easily after quarrels Opens our eyes to goodness we could not have seen without it. 5. Lewis, 37

Affection & Jealousy6 Case Studies (Small Groups) Two Brothers Mrs. Fidget Dr. Quartz 6. Lewis, 46

Small Group Discussion7 20 Minutes

Friendship8 Greek: Phileo Definition: Something quite marginal; not a main course in life’s banquet’ a diversion’ something that fills up the chinks of one’s time. Example: When two people are friends they have in some degree drawn apart together from the heard. 8. Lewis, 58

Friendship Do you think it is a love? (Discuss for 5 minutes).

Friendship9 Ancients: Friendship seemed the happiest and most folly human of all loves Modern: ignores it. 9. Lewis, 57

Friendship10 We admit that every human needs a few “friends.” Fills up the chinks of one’s time 10. Lewis, 58

Friendship11 Least natural of loves; Least instinctive, organic, biological, gregarious and necessary. Lease commerce with our nerves Nothing quickens the pulse or turns you red or pale. 11. Lewis, 58

Friendship12 Least biological of our loves Both individual and community can survive without it. Friendship arises out of companionship13 Two or more companions discover they have something in common. Friendship can lead into more14 12. Lewis, 63 13. Lewis, 65 14. Lewis, 67

EROS Greek: Eros Definition: being in love, the kind of love in which lovers are in.13 Example: Not to be confused with sex (Venus).14 13. Lewis, 91 14. Lewis, 92

Eros Someone in state of reality doesn’t think of sex. They are too busy thinking of a person.15 “To be thinking of him/her.”16 Sexual Desire, without Eros, wants it, the thing in itself; Eros wants the Beloved. The thing is a sensory pleasure, that is an event occurring in one’s own body. Eros makes someone really want, not a person, but a particular person.17 15. Lewis, 93 16. Lewis, 93 17. Lewis, 94

Eros Eros wonderfully transforms what is par excellence a Need-pleasure into the most Appreciative of all pleasures.18 18. Lewis, 95

Eros19 By nature becomes a demon Danger of idolatry Lovers idolize each other Lovers idolize Eros himself 19. Lewis, 110-111

Eros Small Group Discussion (15 Minutes)

Charity Greek: Agape Definition: the love of God Example: