Church Leader Tool: Receiving Feedback with Pastor John Pumphrey
Definition of Feedback: Any information we get about ourselves.
Definition of Feedback: Any information we get about ourselves. Feedback from Others
Definition of Feedback: Any information we get about ourselves. Feedback from Others Feedback from Ourselves
The Three “Buckets” of Feedback
The Three “Buckets” of Feedback Appreciation
The Three “Buckets” of Feedback Appreciation Coaching
The Three “Buckets” of Feedback Appreciation Coaching Evaluation
Why We Have Trouble Receiving Feedback
Why We Have Trouble Receiving Feedback “It sits at the crux of our need to learn and grow and our need to be accepted respected and loved just the way we are.”
Why We Have Trouble Receiving Feedback “It sits at the crux of our need to learn and grow and our need to be accepted respected and loved just the way we are.” We are the heroes of our own stories.
Benefits of Receiving Feedback
Benefits of Receiving Feedback Our relationships are richer
Benefits of Receiving Feedback Our relationships are richer Our self esteem becomes more secure
Benefits of Receiving Feedback Our relationships are richer Our self esteem becomes more secure We learn and get better and feel good about that
External Blocks to Receiving Feedback Given poorly Given by someone we don’t trust Doesn’t make sense Receiving it with competing commitments (distractions)
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback Overly negative world view
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback Overly negative world view Overly positive world view
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback Overly negative world view Overly positive world view How quickly we recover
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback Overly negative world view Overly positive world view How quickly we recover
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback Overly negative world view Overly positive world view How quickly we recover (setting a time limit)
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback Overly negative world view Overly positive world view How quickly we recover Triggers
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback Overly negative world view Overly positive world view How quickly we recover Triggers Truth
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback Overly negative world view Overly positive world view How quickly we recover Triggers Truth Relationship
Internal Blocks to Receiving Feedback Overly negative world view Overly positive world view How quickly we recover Triggers Truth Relationship Identity
You are the most important person in your own learning!
Drawing Out the Best Feedback Develop a measure of curiosity Opportunity to develop a relationship
Drawing Out the Best Feedback Develop a measure of curiosity Opportunity to develop a relationship
Drawing Out the Best Feedback Develop a measure of curiosity Opportunity to develop a relationship
The story you tell about the feedback you get has a huge impact on how you feel about it.
Drawing Out the Best Feedback Develop a measure of curiosity Opportunity to develop a relationship Understand the context
Drawing Out the Best Feedback Develop a measure of curiosity Opportunity to develop a relationship Understand the context (Which bucket does it fit in?)
Drawing Out the Best Feedback Develop a measure of curiosity Opportunity to develop a relationship Understand the context What is their motive?
Drawing Out the Best Feedback Develop a measure of curiosity Opportunity to develop a relationship Understand the context What is their motive? Good listening
Drawing Out the Best Feedback Develop a measure of curiosity Opportunity to develop a relationship Understand the context What is their motive? Good listening Redirecting to a better time
Asking For Feedback
Asking For Feedback What do you understand to be my greatest strength?
Asking For Feedback What do you understand to be my greatest strength? What do you appreciate most in our interactions with me?
Asking For Feedback What do you understand to be my greatest strength? What do you appreciate most in our interactions with me? What do you wish I would do more of or less of?
Asking For Feedback What do you understand to be my greatest strength? What do you appreciate most in our interactions with me? What do you wish I would do more of or less of? What gift would like you to give me?
What’s the one thing that you most want me to know?
What’s the one thing that you most want me to know What’s the one thing that you most want me to know? Name one thing about… One thing that gets in the way…
Practicing getting feedback helps us get better at this skill!
Theology of Receiving Feedback
Theology of Receiving Feedback In and from Jesus, we are redeemed, made whole, a new creation, beloved children of God and nothing separate us from God’s love!
Theology of Receiving Feedback (Acceptance and Growth) In and from Jesus, we are redeemed, made whole, a new creation, beloved children of God and nothing separate us from God’s love! (Acceptance and Growth)
God and Jesus Thanks Us For Our Ministry!
God and Jesus Thanks Us For Our Ministry God and Jesus Thanks Us For Our Ministry! “Well done good and faithful servant!”
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