WHAT IS YOUR WHY? (Why do you coach?)
6 STEPS TO BUILDING TRUST IN THE COACH – PARENT RELATIONSHIP …and being a happier, more successful and fulfilled coach!
What you will walk away with: Expanded understanding of the importance of trust A 6 step plan for developing trust in your parent/player/club/coach relationships A (hopeful) commitment to choose trust Powerful knowledge about your coaching efficacy based on the CES Clear and specific ways to building trust with parents 3 Must-have systems to put in place in the next year
TRUST: “You know it when you feel it.” -Jack Welch
What happens when an organization has trust-filled relationships? Increased Value Accelerated Growth Enhanced Innovation Improved Collaboration Stronger Partnering Better Execution Heightened Loyalty
6 Steps to Building Trust in the Coach-Parent Relationship
Step 1: HAVE A REALITY CHECK Players are afraid to make mistakes Core mission & values are often forgotten by coaches and parents Coaching is lonely Crazy Soccer Parents are ruining it for everyone Parents are fearful and stressed Coaches are fearful Coaching Culture in United States is Disconnected There is an unbalance of power in the coach-parent relationship
“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them first.” -Ernest Hemingway
Step 2: KNOW YOUR STUFF EFFICACY: COACHING EFFICACY: The extent to which you believe in yourself. COACHING EFFICACY: The extent to which you believe you have the capacity to influence the learning and performance of your athletes. Coaching Efficacy consists of four dimensions:
Coaching Efficacy Scale
Step 3: LEAD WITH INTEGRITY Integrity is when you choose your thoughts and actions based on your values.
Step 3: LEAD WITH INTEGRITY Continually remind yourself about your core value/mission. Go on this journey with another coach Talk the talk with your players Talk the talk with your parents Keep a positivity journal Change your screensaver Add a quote in your email signature
Demonstrate Integrity
Step 4: BUILD YOUR EQ
Step 5: BUILD A DIFFERENT WALL LISTEN FIRST EXTEND TRUST KEEP COMMITMENTS GET BETTER CLARIFY EXPECTATIONS CONFRONT REALITY DELIVER RESULTS SHOW LOYALTY TALK STRAIGHT DEMONSTRATE RESPECT RIGHT WRONGS
6 Steps to Building Trust in the Coach-Parent Relationship Have a reality check Coaching efficacy Lead with integrity Develop your emotional intelligence Build a different wall
Step 6: PUT SYSTEMS IN PLACE THREE SYSTEMS EVERY CLUB MUST PUT IN PLACE Procedures for complaints Club-wide communication guidelines/expectations Club Coach Parent Player Player evaluation procedures
“The people when rightly and fully trusted will return the trust.” -Abraham Lincoln
What happens when an organization has trust-filled relationships? Increased Value Accelerated Growth Enhanced Innovation Improved Collaboration Stronger Partnering Better Execution Heightened Loyalty
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Please keep in touch! www.SoccerParenting.com/NSCAA Skye Eddy Bruce Skye@SoccerParenting.com (804) 467-7041 (text me to set up a time to meet) www.SoccerParenting.com All slides, worksheets, quizzes can be found at: www.SoccerParenting.com/NSCAA