Principle #17 Keep Score of Your Success and Build on It

“You can’t build on failure; you can only build on success.” What does this mean? “You can’t build on failure; you can only build on success.” -Anthony Robbins

Think About It (5 Minutes) In your notes, brainstorm ideas for the T-chart below. Mistakes I’ve Made in the Last Month Successes I’ve Achieved in the Last Month Now circle the side of the T-Chart you focus more of your attention on.

Why Do We Tend to Focus on Failures? Behavior Response from Parents Defiance Lose cell phone “F” grade on report card Grounded Fighting with a sibling Time out Say a bad word Spanking Good behavior Nothing “A” grade on report card “That’s what I expected you’d get.” Getting along with your sibling Nothing Use appropriate language Nothing What types of behaviors get the most attention?

You’ve Been Trained Wrong Is it any wonder why you focus on your failures? Negative behaviors get more attention than positive ones You need to retrain your brain to focus on successes

The Law of Attraction You get more of what you focus on. If you focus on failures, you will continue to fail If you focus on successes, you will continue to succeed Successful people keep track of successes while learning from their failures

Different Focuses Today Jenny was chosen as Homecoming Queen, I didn’t do as well as Jocelyn on the Algebra test, and I am no longer #1 in my class Today I skipped rope 56 times, I got 3 gold stars, and I sold five boxes of Girl Scout Cookies

Compete with Yourself Challenge yourself to “beat your best score” Avoid the temptation to compare yourself to others Someone, somewhere will always be better than you. Success is determined by how you evaluate your own accomplishments

Experiment Look at the images on the following slides. Compare them to yourself.

How Do Your Looks Compare?

How Do Your Grades Compare?

How Do You Compare in Sports?

How Does Your Car Compare?

How Does Your Bank Account Compare?

How Does Your House Compare?

How Do Your Toys Compare?

Quick Write (5 Minutes) In your notes, write how you felt about yourself when you compared yourself to what others look like or have.

Self-Esteem is Like Poker Chips Imagine your self-esteem is measured in poker chips as seen below Who is most confident? Who will be least likely to take a risk? A B C

Self-Esteem is Like Poker Chips Acknowledging and appreciating our past successes enlarges our pile of chips A larger pile of chips gives us the courage to take risks Risks lead to more opportunities for success

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Silent Reading Read about keeping score of your successes on pages 193-202 in the book entitled The Success Principles by Jack Canfield and Kent Healy. Take down one page of Cornell notes.

Measure Yourself When you were little, your parents may have measured you from time to time to see your growth. Do the same with your successes

Success Journal In your Success Journal, begin by writing down 50 successes that you’ve already achieved in your. If you can’t remember the date, just leave it blank.