Life Positions Our Basic Attitudes

I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE NOT OK Life Positions I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE OK I’M OK • YOU’RE NOT OK. I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE NOT OK I’M OK • YOU’RE OK

Ways to Change Your Basic Attitudes Life Positions Ways to Change Your Basic Attitudes 1. Re-evaluating Your Basic Life Position. 2. Using Positive Reinforcement. 3. Managing Your Stamp Collection.

Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position TA research indicates you determined your basic life position when you were two to four years old. You determined you were either “OK” or “NOT OK” based on how others around you reacted to you.

Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Stroking… a TA term for recognizing other people. A way of affecting a person’s attitude toward themselves and others.

Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Strokes fulfill the basic human need for personal recognition. Stroking can be done word, touch, gesture or positive listening. What kind of strokes do you prefer?

Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement What Kind of Strokes Do You Give? Negative Strokes Positive Strokes

Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement What Kind of Strokes Do You Get? You either collect them or cancel them. This way you are Managing Your TA Stamp Collection.

Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement What Kind of Strokes Do You Get? Brown Stamps… stamps are negative strokes. Collecting too many result in “Not OK” feelings. Green Stamps… stamps are positive strokes. Collecting these stamps result in “OK” feelings.

Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Managing Your Stamp Collection Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Managing Your Stamp Collection Stamp Collecting You Should... Cancel or immediately redeem Brown Stamps. (some “Not OK” people store brown stamps and redeem them in quantity via heated arguments, fights, take advantage of others, even murder).

Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Managing Your Stamp Collection Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Managing Your Stamp Collection Stamp Collecting You Should... Collect Green Stamps!

Clues To Life Positions Can You Take Strokes Gracefully? Not OK Positions turn down compliments of boast about the accomplishment. Those who are OK can accept a compli-ment, return it, and go on to another subject.

Clues To Life Positions Can You Give Strokes Gracefully? Ability to give compliments easily. Ability to listen to others. Ability to accept other views. Ability to treat others with respect.

Clues To Life Positions Physical Positions Shows confidence or compulsion. Relaxed or tense. Comfortable or ill at ease. Smiling or hard, sold look. Good posture vs slouching.

Life Positions I’m OK Jerk I’m You’re Not OK Not OK Loser I’m Not OK Winner I’m Not OK You’re Not OK Loser Sulker I’m Not OK

Choosing Your Life Position I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE OK I’M OK • YOU’RE NOT OK. I’M NOT OK • YOU’RE NOT OK I’M OK • YOU’RE OK

Be A Winner In Life Choose... I’M OK • YOU’RE OK!