Bell Ringer Learning Target – I can discuss how to develop social health. Bell Ringer: I can describe and practice proper etiquette in a variety of situations.

Etiquette

Emily Post Quotes "Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings [and needs] of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.“ "Manner is… the outward manifestation of one’s innate character and attitude toward life.“

The “Magic Words” Please Thank You and You’re Welcome Excuse Me When you’ve inconvenienced someone Please Forgive Me I Forgive You "Excuse me," "Pardon me," and "I beg your pardon" all express your awareness that you've inconvenienced someone else. Say “excuse me” when you: Make a necessary interruption: "Excuse me, but you have a phone call." Make a request: "Excuse me, but this is the non-smoking section." Acknowledge an error: "Excuse me. I didn't realize that you were already waiting in line." Acknowledge a faux pas, such as burping: "Excuse me." Leave a conversation: "Excuse me, I wish I could chat longer, but I have to leave now." Get up from the table: "Please excuse me.“

General Guidelines Greet people by name. Speak clearly – do not mumble. Respect the privacy of others. Do not interrupt. Write thank-you notes. Play fair. Use these rules wherever you go!

Table Manners

Ten Rules for Table Manners 1. Chew with your mouth closed. 2. Avoid slurping, smacking, and blowing your nose. 3. Hold your utensils properly Continental or American style 4. Don’t pick your teeth at the table. 5. Remember to use your napkin at all times. Don’t use your utensils like a shovel or as if you’ve just stabbed the food you’re about to eat. It is okay to prop your elbows on the table while conversing between courses

6. Wait until you’re done chewing to sip or swallow a drink. 7. Cut only one piece of food at a time. 8. Avoid slouching and don’t place your elbows on the table while eating 9. Instead of reaching across the table for something, ask for it to be passed to you. 10. Always say ‘excuse me’ whenever you leave the table.

A Good Dinner Guest… Waits until everyone has been served to begin eating. Knows if and when to ask for seconds. Informs his host prior to the meal if he has food allergies or clearly defined religious or other food restrictions. Doesn’t take the last piece. Doesn’t leave the table until the host or hostess or the guest of honor leaves. Writes a note to express his gratitude for the hospitality shown. Generally speaking, you should wait to request more food until encouraged by the host. Assuming all food is clearly on display in front of you, simply ask that a specific item on the table be passed to you for seconds. It will be a compliment to the chef that you want more of something. Before serving yourself, be sure to offer some to the dining companion on either side of you. When food is not in front of you, it is best to wait until you are offered more. This could cause your host to be uncomfortable by having to refuse your request because there are no seconds. Neither host nor guest should place an emphasis on the food. Rather, the focus of a family-style meal should be the overall enjoyment of a celebration and an evening in good company. It is always best to offer the use of any item to the dining companions on either side of you before you grab it. You could say something such as, "Jane, Joe, this last piece of turkey looks mighty delicious. Would you enjoy having some of it?" If yes, share it. If they decline, help yourself.

Introductions

Two-Step Rule for Introductions Step 1: The first person's name you say is always the most important person. Step 2: Everyone else's name is introduced to that most important person. Speak clearly!

Other Ideas for Introductions Use the words "this is" as the bridge between saying the most important person's name first and then introducing the second person. May I introduce…? Keep the forms of the address equal. When possible use both a person's first and last name when making introductions. Say something about the people you are introducing so they will have something from which to springboard their own conversation. When you use the word "meet" to introduce someone, you will always throw the emphasis off toward to the wrong person. “May I introduce…? or “I’d like to introduce.” If you use Ms. Doe, you must use Mr. Smith. You should not say, "Jane Doe this is Mr. Smith.“ To use only a first name is not introducing the total person.

Telephone Etiquette

Telephone Etiquette Identify yourself when making a call. Be ready to take a message when answering the phone for someone else. Never use the speaker phone without informing the caller. Be sure to give your name and phone number when leaving a message. The person you’re calling may have lost your contact information.

Cell Phone Etiquette Be in control of your phone, don't let it control you! Speak softly. Be courteous to those you are with; turn off your phone if it will be interrupting a conversation or activity. Avoid talking about personal problems in a public place.

If it must be on and it could bother others, use the silent ring mode and move away to talk. Don’t make calls in a library, theater, church, or from your table in a restaurant. Don’t text during class or in church. Private information can be forwarded, so don’t text it. NEVER drive and use your phone at the same time.

The Art of Conversation

The Art of Conversation – Do’s Listen more than you talk Come to an occasion with topics at the ready Tailor the conversation to the listener Take your turn Think before you speak

The Art of Conversation – Don’ts Don’t interrupt When in a group, don’t talk to only one person Don’t engage in “one-upping” Don’t overshare Don’t be a Door Slammer Door Slammers “Have you seen any good plays lately?” “No, I hate the theater.” “Which team are you for in the Super Bowl?” “Neither. Only an idiot could be interested in football.” “This country must have a lot of idiots!” mockingly. “Obviously it has.” Full stop. In desperation you veer to the personal. “I’ve never seen DeeDee as beautiful as she is to-night.” “Nothing beautiful about her. As for the name ‘DeeDee,’ it’s ridiculous.” “Oh, it’s just one of those children’s names that stick sometimes for life.” “It’s stupid. A person should be called by their name,” etc. Another, not very different in type though different in method, is the self-appointed instructor whose proper place is on the lecture platform, not at a dinner table: “The earliest coins struck in the Peloponnesus were stamped on one side only; their alloy———” etc. Another is the expounder of the obvious: “Have you ever noticed,” says he, deeply thinking, “how people’s tastes differ?” Then there is the vulgarian of fulsome (flattering to an excessive degree) compliment: “I hate you, you’re so pretty! It is not fair to the others———” and so on.

Good Hygiene Equals Good Manners Keep your body and clothes clean and neat. Don’t groom yourself in public. Wash your hands often. Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze. Dispose of tissues in the wastebasket. Wash your hands often!

Hats Off When… In someone's home At mealtimes, at the table While being introduced In church Indoors at work, especially in an office Hats can be left on when: Outdoors At athletic events (indoors or out) On public transportation In public buildings such as post offices, airports, and hotel or office lobbies On elevators

Hats Off When… In public buildings such as a school, library, courthouse, or town hall In restaurants At any indoor performance When the national anthem is played When the flag of the United States passes by, as in a parade

Emily Post Quotes "Nothing is less important than which fork you use. Etiquette is the science of living. It embraces everything. It is ethics. It is honor.“ "The attributes of a great lady may still be found in the rule of the four S's: Sincerity, Simplicity, Sympathy, and Serenity."