Bullying is A Pain in the Brain

What is bullying? Bullying is any mean word, look, sign, or act that hurts a person’s body, feelings, or things. (Repeated over time) It is a conscious desire to hurt another and put them under stress. An aggressive or violent behavior in which one person or group has more power than another verbally, physically or emotionally. Bullying is peer abuse.

Bullying Behaviors What does it look like Bullying Behaviors What does it look like? It can be verbal or nonverbal. Name calling, teasing, Mimicking, eye rolling, threatening Indifference and exclusion Hitting, Kicking, Pushing, Shoving Invasion of Personal Space Writing mean notes, spreading rumors

Types of Bullying Verbal: Taunting, teasing, name-calling, threatening, put downs, sighs, whispering Emotional: Exclusion, Spreading rumors, pointing, laughing inappropriately, private clubs – hurting someone’s feelings Physical: Hitting, Pushing, Spitting, Biting, hurting someone’s body Sexual: obscene gestures, inappropriate touching, using names like gay, or saying Cyber bullying: using the computer to say hurtful or mean things

Bullies can get power by… Using a code of silence Fear Size I’m popular and cool and you’re not Mean looks and gestures Better than you attitude Athletic ability Jealousy Has lots of things like toys, nice clothes or money I’m smarter than you

Bullying Terms Victim – person who is the target of the bully Ringleader Bully – person who plays the main role in bullying Assistant bullies – person who joins in the bullying Reinforcers – person who laughs with or encourages the bully Outsiders – they stay away and don’t take sides Defenders/Bystanders – they step in and/or stick up for the victim

Bullies – Just a few kids Bystanders – Most kids Targets – Just a few kids

Where does bullying happen? School At home On the playground On the computer Over the phone In the lunchroom In the bathroom In the hallway On the bus Just about anywhere

How does it feel when someone gets bullied Sad Mad Frustrated Devastated Want Revenge Hurt All alone Embarrassed Inferior Small Not important Like you don’t want to come to school It can turn to rage and anger in a person if it doesn’t stop

Why do kids get bullied? Differences Power Jealousy Family Background Not cool - social Intelligence Physical Feature To get a reaction

What is your shield if you get bullied? Take a deep breath and get calm. Give yourself a positive message. Use an “I” message. Use a strong voice and body language. Ignore the person teasing you. Walk away and get help from an adult. Use a sense of humor. Move to a group of supportive friends. One liners “You have a funny way of making friends” “Thanks for noticing” “Sorry you feel that way” Tell an adult.

Empathy Empathy refers to the ability to understand how others feel, feel what they are feeling, and care about their feelings. We can experience empathy even if we haven’t had the exact same experience because we can experience similar emotions like anger, hurt or sadness. Everyone can learn to be empathetic. Close your eyes and try to get into someone else's shoes and try to imagine how they feel.

What can you do if you see someone getting bullied? Tell an adult. Invite them to play with you. Stick up for them. Refuse to join in. Don’t rush over and take them on – it might not be safe. If you report a bullying behavior it is NOT tattling!!!

Bully Riddles What do you say to a bully who is bothering you? Knock, Knock. Who’s there? Leaf. Leaf Who? Leaf me alone! What is a bully’s favorite food? Bully-loney sandwiches What happened to the bully who swallowed a frog? He became a bully frog.

Stand Up Against Bullies Don’t sit down. Face the situation. Let’s begin the crackdown. Working together, We can all find peace. We can end bully power. And the hurting will cease. Let’s all do our part. To make sure the message is clear. We won‘t put up with bullies! Only friends allowed here!

Kids who have empathy do not bully others because they put themselves in other peoples’ shoes

Liberty View Elementary Consequences for Bullying Write a plan of action Loss of recess Parent Contact Office visit Quiet time in a safe place Loss of special school privileges Suspension from school It is your responsibility to report bullying!!! We want our school to be safe so kids can learn and have fun.

What to do if someone bullies you? Step 1: Talk Friendly Use a friendly voice, face, and body language “I don’t like it when you do that, please stop” “I don’t like when you talk to me that way, please stop” Step 2: Talk Firmly Use a firm voice, a firm face, and body language “Stop it. I don’t like that” “I said stop” Step 3: Get Help Ask for help to solve the problem. Don’t ask an adult to solve your problem for you To an adult: “I need your help solving a problem. This person is bothering me by using unkind words. I asked them to stop in a friendly way, I asked them to stop in a firm way and they keep bothering me. Can you help us solve this problem?”