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Some research indicates that over 160,000 stay home from school because of fear…

3 Kinds of Bullying Physical Verbal Emotional

Physical Hitting Pushing Kicking Shoving Punching Pulling hair Tripping Scratching Pushing Shoving Pulling hair Grabbing Choking Stabbing with pencil

Verbal Name calling Profanity Gossip Rumors Put downs Threatening Humiliating Talking about someone’s mother or family Gossip Rumors

Sticks and stones may break my bones BUT words will never hurt me!!! Agree or disagree???? Verbal bullying

Sticks and stones can break my bones but words my heart.

Emotional Laughing Pointing Staring Writing notes Giving ‘evil eye’ Ignoring Body language Gestures – “L’ - loser Making a fist excluding

Which is the most common? Physical Verbal Emotional

Which is the most hurtful form of bullying? Physical Verbal Emotional

Targets Bullies Witnesses

Target Cry, Comply, Deny or Fly off the handle Girls, boys, kids, adults Short, tall, thin, heavy Wear braces or glasses Different color hair, skin, or religion Have a disability Someone in their family has a disability Changed schools Repeated a grade/moved up a grade Have a name someone can make fun of Has different interests Likes different music Cry, Comply, Deny or Fly off the handle

Bullies They have problems in their family They’re being abused at home Older brother/sister picking on them They want revenge They want to be noticed They want to be popular They’re bored They’re mean They have been bullied by someone else and now they are bullying They have seen it on TV, movies , video games Peer pressure Maybe they are lonely They’re jealous They don’t know how to make friends They want power/control

Research on Bullies Dr Eron in upstate NY- study of 690 third graders…update 10 years later in HS and found almost all seniors who were bullies in HS were also reported in 3rd grade… 10 years later discover 1 in 4 students who were identified in 3rd grade as bullies had a criminal record by the time they were 28.

More research on bullies Study by Dan Olweus found that 60 % of children identified as bullies between grades 6-10 were cited for criminal behavior as adults…40% of those had 3 or more convictions

Witnesses – 70% Power in numbers!!!!

Bullying Vs Teasing Bullying: intent to harm, intensity & duration, abuse of power, target is vulnerable, target unsupported, continuing when asked to STOP Bullying – when only one person laughing Teasing – when both people are laughing Power of a witness....