BUILDING THE HOME A Series of Lessons

BUILDING THE HOME Consult the Architect Bricks for Wives Bricks for Husbands Termites in your Troth Imitation Bricks – Husbands Imitation Bricks - Wives

Introduction Ads on TV – Faux Pearls, Faux Fur Faux – French word for – false, fake, imitation Worker was asked to build a nice hose for boss He used cheap materials Cut corners, pocketed the extra money When completed – boss gave him the keys Retirement gift – he gave him the house In building a home – don't use cheap, look alike, “faux” bricks

1 Peter 3:1-5 1 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,

1 – Secret Manipulation God - “Let me handle your husband.” He can ignore your tears, nagging, begging He can't ignore your “quiet, calm spirit.” Watch out for bricks of: Moody Pouting Lying Sneaking Tears Nagging Pressure Rebekah helped Jacob deceive her husband Agree on discipline – stick to it.

1 – Secret Manipulation You can not manipulate any permanent change. Many women think - “I'll altar him, then I'll alter him.” Warning: WYSIWYG (What you see is what you get)

2 – External for Internal Beauty Physical is important But – it must not be the primary focus Clothes, perfume, hair, wrinkle cream Will you love me when I am old and wrinkled? Real Qualities: Meek – not weakness, but gentle strength Quiet spirit – calm, tranquil, not boisterous

3 – Learning for Doing Attend Ladies class, Ladies day, seminars, lectureships Don't neglect the husband and children at home Ask yourself: Do I need more facts? Information? How to be a wife? Is this going to help my service to the church? Am I doing what I already know?

4 – Others vs. Family Many women visit hospital, nursing homes Take food to sick and grieving Mother baking a cake – either company is coming or somebody died Noah saved his house – Hebrews 11:7 By faith Noah, being divinely warned of things not yet seen, moved with godly fear, prepared an ark for the saving of his household, by which he condemned the world and became heir of the righteousness which is according to faith.

Conclusion Both husbands and wives help build the home Don't bring imitation bricks They will crumble Build a home that will last