Developing Mentoring Programmes for Pastors and Denominational Leaders 2 Kings 2:2 Elijah said to Elisha, “Stay here; the Lord has sent me to Bethel.” “but Elisha said, “As surely as the Lord lives and as you live, I will not leave you.” Developing Mentoring Programs for Pastors and Denominational Leaders   Principles of Generational Transmission In humanity In discipleship Deuteronomy 4 & 11 Psalm 22 Paradigms of Scripture Moses and Joshua Elijah and Elisha Paul and Timothy Purposes of Coaching and Mentoring Preservation Protection Productivity Progeny

Mentor In the Odyssey, Mentor was the son of Alcimus. In his old age Mentor was a friend of Odysseus who placed Mentor and Odysseus' foster-brother Eumaeus in charge of his son Telemachus, and of Odysseus' palace, when Odysseus left for the Trojan War.

Mentor, good teacher, polestar shepherd, helpful friend =

What is a mentor?

A wise ‘elder’ but not a ‘Tiger Mother’

A mentor – more than just a role model - but not a manager

Mentoring “Mentoring refers to the process in which a person with a serving giving, encouraging attitude (Mentor), sees the leadership potential in a still to be developed person and is able to prompt or otherwise significantly influence that person along to the realisation of he/her potential.” Robert Clinton Mentoring is the empowering life-investment, in an accountable relationship, through which knowledge, skills and attitudes are effectively modelled and imparted so that lives are transformed. Chan, Edmund

Different Relationships for Helping Growth Pastoral Supervision Spiritual Direction Coaching Mentoring Counselling Specific skills development Whole of life development Focus on the functioning of self in the context of pastoral ministry Focus on the pastor’s relationship with Father, Son and Spirit Focus on skilled therapy for the pastor’s mental and emotional health All of these are intentional, conscious, relationships

Coaching Focuses on training in specific skills usually associated with the role or ministry position that the person seeking coaching is in; more targeted than a mentor. Has specific goals that the coached person wishes to achieve or focus on. Aimed at assisting the person being coached to make decision and take action in particular areas to grow in their capacity and competence in those areas.

Mentoring A general support and development role that assists someone to reflect upon their life, ministry and relationships. A more general span but may very well identify particular issues that will be given special attention. The mentor is prepared to share wisdom and experience from their own life journey. May include aspects of spiritual direction and coaching from time to time. Mentoring is usually over a significant period of time once the relationship is established.

Spiritual Direction Focuses on the spiritual development, spiritual health, and improvement of spiritual disciplines; discernment of where God may be leading or developing the person; focus on the inner life of the person and the health of their relationship with Jesus but also on the implications in outer world

Pastoral Supervision Supervision is a safe, confidential relationship that provides a regular opportunity to reflect on ministry and pastoral relationships. Good supervision supports, challenges, and encourages learning, self- knowledge, professional development, good use of resources and time, and respect for boundaries.

Counselling To work on specific intra-personal and interpersonal issues at a deeper psycho-spiritual level. Often initiated by a life “crisis” situation. Counsellor has specific professional training and skills.

Foundational Principles

Principles Underlying Mentoring The Need for Generational Transmission Psalm 78:1 - 8 in our families Deuteronomy 4 – 6 & 11 in our communities of faith 2 Timothy 2:2

Principles Underlying Mentoring A Component of Discipleship “To Timothy, my true son in the faith …” “To Timothy, my dear son …”

Principles Underlying Mentoring Ric Warren

Principles Underlying Mentoring A Lifelong Posture of Learning

Principles Underlying Mentoring

In your group … Identify one biblical example that could be identified as a mentoring relationship and another key text that might inform the mentoring relationship.

Paradigms in Scripture Moses and Joshua Elijah and Elisha Paul and Timothy

In your group … identify at lease two purposes for mentoring of pastors and denominational leaders

Purposes of Coaching and Mentoring Preservation helps pastors/leaders stay in the race Protection against moral failure and major mistakes Productivity builds the skills of pastors Progeny reproduces new, quality leaders

In your groups … What are the qualities of a good mentor?

Qualities of a Good Mentor An open posture of acceptance Maturity and experience Openness to share self Capacity to listen well Capacity to monitor own thoughts and emotions while listening Honesty about self Skill in asking powerful questions Willingness to hold “mentoree” accountable Willingness to learn Reliability

Process in establishing and maintaining a mentoring relationship Establish boundaries Develop action plans Build trust

Two Cautions Listen before speaking Ask questions before instructing

Outline of a mentoring session Sharing wisdom Careful listening Powerful questions Holding accountable Action

Developing Mentoring Programmes No one model Be intentional Train mentors Model mentoring – be a mentor, be mentored

Developing Mentoring Programmes Should they be mandatory? What about peer mentoring? Who will we recognise as mentors?

In your groups … List issues in your situation that you would need to address if you were to develop mentoring programmes for pastors and leaders

Questions? Observations?

For prayerful consideration Who are you mentoring to carry on the work after you and who is mentoring you to press forward on the journey of following Jesus?

Thank You