Parenting for the Instagram Generation Cherry Fold Community Primary Presents… Parenting for the Instagram Generation

Topics Technologies your children use Risks and tips for protection Teacher/Student online boundaries Cyber-bullying – Signs and solutions

What are the risks? Online predators Social networking / gaming addiction and overuse Digital footprints Cyber-bullying

Gaming

Parenting and Gaming Games such as Grand Theft Auto and Call of Duty carry an 18 certificate owing to scenes of graphic violence, killing, nudity, drug use and explicit language. Ask your child if you can play the game with them. If they are reluctant, this should be ringing alarm bells for you! In GTA V, in order to complete the game there is a mission where you must torture a man to gain information. There are many scenes of a disturbing nature, which may have a negative impact on a child.

PEGI Ratings The Pan European Game Information age rating system was brought in in 2003. These are found on the back of each game box and gives you an idea of what the game entails. More information can be found on the school website.

Gaming Online Xbox Live and PSN – children can be approached in games such as Minecraft and potentially groomed. Strangers can send them messages and speak to them through the headset. Very important to set parental controls if console is in the bedroom. We recommend that consoles are in a family room for this reason.

Breck Bednar, a 14-year-old boy who loved gaming, was groomed online and murdered in 2014. Clips - http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/45gYLBM5qwZdRmH0 g4Z5TVV/murder-games-student-and-teacher-notes A new friendship or relationship may not appear to be about sex – there may be no sexual references as the groomer builds the relationship. It might not make your child uncomfortable, so it can be hard to recognise that they are being groomed. Breck enjoyed his relationship with Daynes. It may take others to spot what is really going on – perhaps another teenager worried that a friend is being controlled. Maybe that teenager confides in a parent. That parent isn’t sure whether to intervene. Young people should be on their guard not just for themselves but for other children. Act on concerns by telling a parent or teacher. If you are worried that a child or young person is being groomed online, report it to the Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre. All reports are reviewed by child protection social workers. The Child sex offender disclosure scheme (Sarah’s Law) allows the public to check whether people in contact with their children have a criminal record for child sex offences. To discuss concerns initially, call the NSPCC Helpline 0800 800 5000

Tips Leave all gaming devices in a family space. Ask them to never give our personal information when gaming online. Set parental controls. Set time limits on how long they can game for. Allow time for non-technology based activities and allow an hour an hour ‘screen free’ time before bed for restful sleep. Check messages on devices.

Functions of Smart Phones Chat Internet Text Alarm Clock Images

The following are all popular social media apps in the UK The following are all popular social media apps in the UK. Your children may use some of them already. Ask them to show you their tablet/phone and explain each of the app symbols, what they do and who else uses them. It is good practice to ask them what could go wrong with each one too.

Some Interesting Statistics 90% of teen social media users have posted a picture of themselves online 7 in 10 disclose the town where they live 20% disclose their mobile number online Good News 60% of teens have deleted or edited something published 50% have deleted comments from others on their profile or account

A Video – Social Media Jigsaw - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_o8auwnJtqE Clare thought she knew - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z5WEnqnq1Hk

What These Videos Highlight Children can use social media, but we need to show them how to do it responsibly We need to make them aware of reporting functions Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat and Pinterest have a recommended age of 13+ - this is due to the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act. Websites should obtain parental permission before storing children’s data Ask your child to never accept people they don’t know Treat personal information like their toothbrush! Ask them not to use the webcam with people they don’t know Teach them how to report a problem Tips

Instagram – Minimum Age: 13 Take pictures and videos and share with your friends. Allows to you change pictures and add filters. You can comment on pictures, like them and tag others. Pictures / Videos can be shared on Facebook and Twitter. Tip: Set user to PRIVATE.

Tip: Check the ‘Protect my Tweets’ box. Twitter Allows you to tweet your thoughts immediately and follow others. New appeal – fewer parents use it and therefore less “drama”. Tip: Check the ‘Protect my Tweets’ box.

Snapchat Risks Take pictures and videos to share with others. Automatically erases content after 3-10 seconds of viewing. Sexting, cyber-bullying and more. The illusion of invisibility. Users can screen grab images. Risks

Ask.fm Allows users to be asked anonymous questions from any web user. Open to widespread abuse and trolling with limited ability to trace those responsible. Widely thought to be a key factor in the suicide of Hannah Smith (August 2013).

Cyber-Bullying, Warning Signs Secretive behaviour regarding mobile / online use. Increased time spent online. Many new contacts on phone / tablet / laptop. Withdrawn personality after texting / low self-esteem. Reluctance to go to school / withdrawal from friends. Sleep problems. http://www.digizen.org/resources/cyberbullying/films/uk/l fit-film.aspx?video=s

Parental Strategies Talk to your child about their concerns. Ask them to show you their phone / tablet / laptop. Try to create a timeline of ‘abuse’. Do not delete! Take screenshots of activity. Contact a teacher at school for advice. Do not reply on their behalf!

Sleep… or lack of it Average number of texts sent per night by teenagers after they have gone to bed: 33 Amount of time per night spent texting after getting into bed: 10 minutes – 4 hours. Average number of times woken up EVERY night by phone: 1 Impact: Reduction of melatonin release. Research link between night time mobile use and ADHD.

Students who left all mobile technology outside their bedroom scored on average one grade higher than those who kept their tech turned on in their rooms.

Pillow Talk There have been instances of mobile phones overheating and setting alight when they are put under pillows. Encourage phones to be left charging downstairs.

Parental Controls Set ground rules – no mobile technology in the bedroom at night, mobile free time before bed and no use after lights out. Block sites that are age appropriate. Limit inappropriate material. Monitor activity.

Top Tips for Parental Controls Many internet providers now provide a filtering service for explicit material. Call them and ask if it is activated. Turn on parental controls on phones, tablets and gaming consoles – instructions on how to do this are available on our website http://www.cherryfold.co.uk/information/e- safety-for-parents-carers Ask us for a printed copy of setting parental controls. Turn on Google Safesearch and YouTube safety – for this you must be logged in with a Google account. Talk to your children about what they are doing online.

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