Bullying Prevention I changed the department name

Bullying Definition Behavior that is intentional, hurtful and repeated by one or more persons. Imbalance of power – real or perceived Read definition. Look at the picture of this little girl here. Do you see them in the background. What do you think the other girls are doing? (talking bad about her), (excluding her from their group), (teasing her). Do you think these things are bullying. How do you think this girl feels? She is going to go home from school and be thinking about how she is going to deal with this for the entire school year. It’s not right. And there are students in this school that feel this same way. There are kids in this classroom that feel the same way. We need to stop and think about what were doing and “treat other people the way you want to be treated”. 2

Bullying Statistics Bully Statistics 2016-2017 15% off all bullying is cyber bullying 63% of bullying victims do not report it 160k students stay home everyday to avoid bullies 25% off all kids are bullied by other children in school 2016 saw a 7% increase in bullying from 2015 (Source:http://www.statisticstats.com/education/bullying-statistics)

Types of Bullying Direct Indirect Cyberbullying

Direct Physical – hitting, kicking, pushing, stealing, hiding or ruining someone’s things. Making someone do something they don’t want to do. Verbal – name calling, teasing, insulting, threats. Pushing in the hallway, hiding someone’s food at the lunch table. Teasing someone about the way they look. Name calling. No one in here has the right to call anyone a name that is insulting or offensive. Like fat, ugly.

Indirect Relationship Bullying – gossiping, spreading rumors and lies about someone. Social Bullying- leaving someone out on purpose, rejecting, embarrassing someone in public Which one of these types of bullying do you think boys are involved in? Which one do you think girls are involved in? Boys tend to be more physical and girls value relationships more than boys. At one school there were these girls who thought they were these divas or the Royal 5 and they had this signup sheet for girls who wanted to sit with them at lunch. What happen was girls would sign up and they would pass the sign up sheet around to see who was rejected or not. This is mean and unacceptable and do you think this is the way those girls would want to be treated? 6

How does it make the victim feel? Depressed Hurt Alone Low Self-Esteem Anxious Scared We talked about the effects of bullying has on a person. These are just some of them but there are so many others that I can’t list here because there is not enough room. Depressed. This is a big problem among children and teenagers who are victims of being bullied. Anyone know what depressed means? (let students answer). Ok, now I am going to talk to you about a girl who was the victim of being bullied and her story. 7

WARNING SIGNS OF BEING BULLIED Come home with damaged, missing pieces of clothing, books or belongings Have unexplained cuts, bruises or scratches Have few, if any friends, with whom he/she spend time Afraid of going to school, walking to and from school, riding the bus Do poorly in school Miss, skip, or drop out of school Appear sad, anxious, moody, or depressed Have trouble sleeping Have low self-esteem

What to do if you suspect that your child is being bullied? Talk to your child: Tell her/him, you are concerned. Some direct questions: Are there any kids at school who may be picking on you? Some indirect questions: Do you have special friends at school? Who are they? Who do you sit with at lunch and on the bus? Do they ever pick on you?

What to do if you suspect that your child is being bullied? Talk to the School Staff Set up an appointment to talk with the teacher Share your concerns: How is he/she doing with other kids in the class? Have you noticed if my child has been bullied? If not satisfied, meet with school counselor or principal

Who is a Bully? What type of people are not treating others like they want to be treated.

Characteristics of a Bully Enjoy feelings of power and control Lack compassion and empathy for their targets Have difficulty following rules View violence in a positive way Want to look tough Want to be popular More likely to engage in other problem behaviors later in life, such as criminal activity or alcohol or other drug abuse

Family risk factors for bullying Lack of adult supervision Overly permissive parents (no limits, no rules at home) Violent environment at home Has a model for violent or bullying behavior

What should I do if my child is bullying others? Make it clear to your child that you will not tolerate bullying Develop clear and consistent behavior rules within the family Praise and reinforce your child for following rules Spend more time with your child and monitor his/her activities Share concerns with the school Seek for help if you think that your child needs professional intervention

Bullying: CYBER BULLYING Cyber bullying is bullying that takes place using electronic technology. Electronic technology includes devices such as CELL PHONES, COMPUTERS, and TABLETS as well as communication tools including SOCIAL MEDIA SITES, TEXT MESSAGES, CHAT, and WEBSITES. LOL 15

Social Networks

How Cyberbullying may work Repeatedly sending cruel or threatening messages “EVERYONE IN THE SCHOOL HATES YOU” Posting gossip or rumors Posting pictures of classmates/friends online ridiculing others or asking others to rate them “SEE THE PICTURES AND VOTE FOR THE UGLIEST GIRL IN THE SCHOOL” Taking pictures of potential victims in private situations PICTURES TAKEN IN LOCKER ROOMS, BATHROOMS ETC. Pretending to be someone else and sending information to get that person in trouble Posting altered pictures

What Parents Can do MODEL HOW TO TREAT OTHERS WITH KINDNESS & RESPECT Kids learn from adults’ actions. By treating others with kindness and respect, adults show the kids in their lives that there is no place for bullying.

What Parents Can Do COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILD Talk to your child. It is the most important step to help them understand the importance of Internet safety. Teach children to be mindful of what they share online and aware of who they interact with. Help your child feel comfortable coming to you with questions they may have about things they see online. Encourage your kids to tell you immediately if they, or someone they know, is being cyberbullied.

What Parents Can Do BE AWARE OF WHAT YOUR KIDS ARE DOING ONLINE Know the sites your kids visit and their online activities. Ask where they’re going, what they’re doing, and who they’re doing it with. Tell your kids that as a responsible parent you may review their online communications if you think there is reason for concern. Have a sense of what they do online and in texts. Learn about the sites they like. Try out the devices they use. Ask for their passwords, but tell them you’ll only use them in case of emergency. Ask to “friend” or “follow” your kids on social media sites or ask another trusted adult to do so.

What Parents Can Do Establish Rules about Technology Use Establish rules about appropriate use of computers, cell phones, and other technology. Be clear about the amount of time and the sites they can visit. Help them be smart about what they post or say. Tell them not to share anything that could hurt or embarrass themselves or others. Once something is posted, it is out of their control whether someone else will forward it. Encourage kids to think about who they want to see the information and pictures they post online. Should complete strangers see it? Real friends only? Friends of friends? Think about how people who aren’t friends could use it. Children should not have media devices with them when going to bed. Set up a place where devices will remain during the night.

What Parents Can do Change the Privacy Settings on Your Child’s Social Media Pages By default, most social media pages won’t hide personal information, like birthday, phone number and even the address. You can fix this issue by going into the privacy settings of their social media pages and changing their page to private. Whether your child has an account with Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter

What Parents Can do Install Parental Control Software Among the biggest threats your children face online are pornography, gambling sites and violent videos. Parental control software that will only expose your children to visual data that you allow.

What Parents Can Do Examples of Parental Control

What Parents Can Do

Who to Report Incidents? The school: Let the school know if the incident involves classmates at your child’s school. The provider of the service: Most services have complaints and abuse policies and you can “report abuse” The police: If the cyberbullying is a serious and potential criminal offense consider contacting the police.

BULLY-FREE STARTS WITH ME: Personal Responsibility It is up to everyone to take personal responsibility for their behavior at school. How do YOU stand up to bullying behaviors at Summit Hall? 27

Credits PBSkids.org Youtube.com HRSA. Gov Stop Bullying now campaing