Do you remember chapter 7? Telling my mom how excited I am about my upcoming trip to Punta Cana. Emotional communication or communicating emotionally? Meta-emotion? Biological Theory of Emotion vs. The Social Interaction Theory of Emotion – which is more subjective? Informal Activity #4

Chapter 8 Lecture/Recap Self-Disclosure Chapter 8 Lecture/Recap

Relevance to the study of interpersonal communication?

Self-Disclosure “…personal information, shared intentionally, that another person would have trouble finding out without being told” (p. 153). “I decided to wear pink today” “I decided to wear pink today in support of my loved ones who have battled breast cancer” Verbal behaviors (intentional) “I really have a crush on Will but no one knows because I’m afraid he won’t like me back” VERSUS “You blush every time Will comes around—you must have a crush on him!”

Features of self-disclosure Must be INTENTIONAL What, how, how much Must trust the individual How do we know? Disclosing private information Private (reflection of self-concept) vs. public (our public image) Level of risk involved -- WHY?

SUBJECTIVITY Private vs. Public History vs. Story More risk associated with story

Factors Impacting disclosure Individual differences (ties to subjectivity) The need for openness and disclosure Culture Sex and Gender Type and life of relationship (3 patterns—p. 16o) Disclosure often levels off or decreases Framing disclosure -- based on relationship type

Principles of self-disclosure Great deal in few interactions Usually occurs between 2 people in close relationships Exceptions? Ex: 3 friends discussing a break up; the bus rider phenomenon

Principles of self-disclosure Reciprocal process Immediate? Matching self-disclosure vs. concern Example: Clip (Charlotte and Miranda) Occurs over time Relationship development linked with self- disclosure

Theories/models Social Penetration Theory/Model Breadth vs. Depth Information Activity #5-Part 1: Draw your onion! Consider each level as more information. Also consider different relationships. Where would you put discussions of: Your relationship with a significant other Your political views Your religious views Your goals and aspirations General information about your family Detailed information about your family Detailed information about your medical history Your hobbies, interest, favorite things Your pet peeves and dislikes What would it take for you to peel back each layer?

THEORIES/MODEL Johari (Joseph + Harry) Window Four panes: Open, Hidden, Blind, and Unknown Informal Activity #5-Part 2: Draw out your Johari Window for these different encounters/relationships: With your parent With your best friend With your professor

Why do we self disclose? (Examples) Psychological (e.g. catharsis) or physical well being Self awareness Relationships (begin, maintain, satisfy, escalate)

Why wouldn’t we disclose? (Examples) To avoid hurt/rejection Consider “ambushing” from our discussion on listening To avoid conflict/protect a relationship To keep image and/or individuality To reduce stress

How to effectively self-disclose Owning (I-Statements) Honesty Consistency Non-distracting verbal cues Relevancy (consider the context) To situation and conversation Risks vs. Benefits analysis Predict reactions/responses (of the receiver) and effects (on the relationship) Appropriateness Amount, type, receiver

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