Maximize Confidence 2

Introduction to theories/approaches for success: Dale Carnegie Training. Success modeling (e.g. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, inspired by Andrew Carnegie) Law of attraction (Secrets; Science of Getting Rich) Learning through experience Neural-linguistic programming (John Grinder, Richard Bandler, Anthony Robbins) Habits (7 habits of highly effective people by Steven Covey) TED (ideas worth spreading) Mental techniques and covert influence (權謀手段)

Each of us comes to this world for a purpose Each of us comes to this world for a purpose. What is your life purpose or mission statement? Are you (the true you, deep inside your heart) equal to what you do (jobs, titles, achievements)? Do you talk to yourself? Thousands of thoughts or self-talks a day. They certainly affect our mood and behavior. What you don’t like about yourself may also have certain kinds of functions. Accept them for higher self-esteem and express them in a good way.

I totally and unconditionally love and accept myself just the way I am I totally and unconditionally love and accept myself just the way I am. (The most powerful statement in building self-esteem.) This doesn’t mean you don’t need to change. By accepting the way you are, you can make yourself even better. Stop comparing yourself to other people, because you don’t know what really happens to them. Group practice: No matter what you say or do to me, I am still a worthwhile person.

Review of positive focus: baseball hitting example. The best athletes only have positive images in mind. In every negative event, there is a seed with equal magnitude of positive power and influence. Ototake Hirotada 五體不滿足; Oscar Pistorius, the blade runner; Wei Liu, no-arm pianist；何欣茹、周鴻隆 wheel chair dancer

Example of missing numbers. There are lots of good parts about you, but do you take your successes for granted? Don’t let unreasonable and unrealistic expectations hurt your confidence. Practice and Homework: 1. Divide your life into three periods, and write down three successes in each period. 2. Write down at least ten good qualities of you.

Images are more powerful than words or plain thoughts. Visualization game: Your body cannot tell the difference between a real event and a vividly imagined event. Example of unnecessary self torture created by imagination. Having positive images will not only make you feel good but also drive creativity from the subconscious mind to make the images happen.

Guilt/regret/sorrow comes from mismatch between your belief and behavior. Your self image is so powerful that if you do anything that does not match with it, the results will be a disaster. Practice: Eagle and chicken image/behavior. What do you feel when you have the image of an eagle inside but try to behave like a chicken? A good way to lose weight is to see yourself in the kind of body shape you desire. Use images to learn English too!

Love your body the way it is Love your body the way it is. (Miss-matched body and soul are not able to do anything.) Your body is just a vehicle which carries your soul. (When receiving a gift, do we care more about the content or the wrapping paper?) I do not mean that the body is not important. Start treating your body well (by eating well and sleep well). Homework: Look at yourself in a big mirror and express any dissatisfaction on your body. Then come back to appreciate the function of that part.

Practical methods for enhancing performance confidence Background: Previous experience usually determines current confidence level. How to get out of this trap? Rehearsal confidence: In an altered (usually energetic) state; do it vividly (with hypnosis and self-talk); from a different perspective. Acceptance confidence: Accept the possibility of initial dissappointment (failure teaches success). There is no failure, only feedback.

Summary Increase self-confidence and self-esteem by the following methods: Having family members or friends who can support you or give you suggestions. Knowing that you yourself are responsible for what you experience in your life. Focus more on what you can do. For what you cannot do (temporarily), realize that there is always a way! Accept and love yourself. Performance confidence techniques.