Violence and Abuse in Relationships HHS4U Blyth Fairbloom

KWL https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BKgmM FAd8- yQeZtRtq3x9JgP_w4P_zafp9cCkQko6QA/edit Record what you know and what you want to learn about violence and abuse in intimate relationships Throughout the lesson you are welcome to add to the chart, especially in the L (what you have learned) section

Definitions Violence: an act intended to physically hurt another person Abuse: taking advantage of a less powerful person Neglect Sexual Abuse Emotional Abuse Financial Exploitation Forms: Physical assault Psychological abuse Restriction of movement Deprivation Sexual abuse Homicide

The Most Frequent Patterns Impossible to estimate frequency of partner violence Assault is reported by both women and men In 2007 abuse was reported to police by: 340 women out of 100,000 population 50 men out of 100,000 population Frequency of reported violence against women is higher Men may be reluctant to report abuse Spousal violence is 12% of reported violent crime in Canada

Abusive Patterns are set Early Those who abuse while dating continue Intergenerational transmission of behavior: A child who witnesses parental violence is likely to repeat: either as abuser or as abused Violence is “normal” behavior to the child

Frequent Pattern of Partner Abuse by a Male Violence-relaxation cycle Increasing intensity of abuse (ex. belittling comments, verbal abuse, physical abuse) A crisis (physical violence, injury) “Honeymoon” period Cycle begins again

Why do Women Tolerate? Commitment to relationship Social roles Financial dependency Threats against children Optimism that “this time its’ going to work out”

Ending an Abusive Relationship Threats, harassment and assaults can continue after ending a relationship Police intervention may be only partially successful Women’s shelters and second-stage housing

Homicide Spousal homicides are 17% of all homicides and 47% of family homicides in Canada For women, the likelihood of being a victim of spousal homicide increases sharply after separation

Child Abuse Frequency: Very difficult to get reliable figures Very young children cannot report, older children may be afraid to report In 2007 the rate of police- reported physical and sexual assault against children and youth was higher than the rate for adults Adolescents at greatest risk Physical: violence that produces injuries Psychological and emotional: damage to child’s self-image and esteem Neglect: failure to provide for and protect a dependent child

Child Abuse Children and youth are most likely to be physically and sexually assaulted by someone they know Family member Friend or acquaintance Stranger Sexual Abuse of Children by Family Member: Reliable figures Often the parent, especially the father Abuse of your boys diminishes as they grow older; abuse of girls increases with age Growing awareness that pedophilia is not a rare phenomenon

Children who Witness Violence One in 12 children between the ages of 4 and 7 witnesses violence at home Having witnessed violence has both immediate and long-term association with children’s aggression and anxiety

Theories of Family Violence About Situational Theory Abuse occurs when the abuser is under stress Social Exchange Theory Social interaction involves rewards and penalties. Rewards outweigh costs Symbolic Interaction Theory Emphasizes the actual behavior and the meanings both people find in this behavior Feminist Theory Violence is the result of patriarchy, which allows men more power than women and asserts that it is right for them to have the power

Leslie Morgan Steiner Watch the video: “Why domestic violence victims don’t leave.” https://www.ted.com/talks/les lie_morgan_steiner_why_dom estic_violence_victims_don_t_l eave/transcript?language=en Add to your KWL charts You are welcome to take additional notes on your computer or separate lined paper

Jackson Katz Watch “Violence against women – it’s a men’s issue.” http://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it _s_a_men_s_issue/transcript?language=en Add to your KWL charts You are welcome to take additional notes on your computer or separate lined paper

How can you learn more? Use the rest of class to visit any of the links below. There are 6 stories about violent and abusive relationships; we have only watched two. Here is the link to the other videos: http://blog.ted.com/5-brave- personal-stories-of-domestic-abuse/ Another great article to look at is “Dating, Domestic Violence and Our Children”: http://www.mommytracked.com/22898 You can also visit https://www.joinonelove.org/ if you want to learn more and/or support the fight against abuse.

Reflection Write 300 – 500 words reflecting on what you knew, what you wanted to know and what you learned from watching the videos on violence and abuse in relationships. Refer to the KWL chart to help you write your response. Be sure to check for spelling, grammar, and punctuation errors in your writing. Make connections to your own life.