Speak up – reach out – become a friend Becoming an Upstander Speak up – reach out – become a friend

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Essential Questions What are bystanders? What are upstanders? What does it take to be an upstander? Is there a difference between telling and reporting?

Bystander: a person who is present at an event or incident but does not take part. What does it mean to be a bystander? A bystander is a person who observes a conflict or unacceptable behavior. It might be something serious or minor, one-time or repeated, but the bystander knows that the behavior is destructive or likely to make a bad situation worse. 

Upstander: A person who speaks or acts in support of an individual or cause, particularly someone who intervenes on behalf of a person being attacked or bullied. What does it take to be an upstander?  It takes courage to speak up on someone’s behalf. By doing so, you are becoming a person of character and also helping someone else.

THE BYSTANDER EFFECT

Telling vs Reporting Telling is similar to tattling. Telling is when you are trying to get someone IN TROUBLE when they are not hurting themselves or others. Reporting is when you are trying to help keep others OUT OF TROUBLE because they might get hurt (or they are hurt).

Safety is always the primary goal. If someone could get hurt – physically, emotionally – REPORT!!! It is ALWAYS better to be safe than sorry. "I cannot change the world, but I can change the world of one person.” Paul Shane Spear

Upstanders, what can they do? Speak Up! Reach Out! Be a Friend! When someone is willing to say they think something is wrong, they can make a difference. Let others know that you don’t accept bullying at your school, and others will be more willing to speak up too. If you see bullying you can report it to an adult. Reporting is not tattling. It is okay to report. Tell the person being bullied that he or she doesn’t deserve to be treated that way. Invite the person being bullied to sit with you or hang out with you. Show the person being bullied that you care about them and support them.

I always wondered why somebody didn’t do something about that…then I realized I am somebody…

"I cannot change the world, but I can change the world of one person "I cannot change the world, but I can change the world of one person.” Paul Shane Spear