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Introduction to Life Calling Session 8 Emotional Strengths By the end of class today, you should be able to: Understand the nature and value of emotional strengths as expressed in the concept of Emotional Intelligence. Identify four abilities associated with Emotional Intelligence. Understand what is involved in the ability to identify emotions as explained in the concept of Emotional Intelligence. Begin evaluating your ability to use emotions and your ability to understand emotions.

Let’s read it responsively. BIBLE on Calling Psalm 22 Everyone recognizes Psalm 23. It is the most quoted psalm, and perhaps scripture. But how many of us recognize Psalm 22—the one right before Psalm 23? It may be the most prophetic psalm, and perhaps scripture. It also contains a wide range of emotions. Let’s read it responsively.

BIBLE on Calling Psalm 22 1 My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from the words of my groaning? 2 O my God, I cry out by day, but you do not answer; by night, and am not silent. 3 Yet you are enthroned as the Holy One; you are the praise of Israel. 4 In you our fathers put their trust; they trusted and you delivered them.

BIBLE on Calling Psalm 22 5 They cried to you and were saved; in you they trusted and were not disappointed. 6 But I am a worm and not a man, scorned by men and despised by the people. 7 All who see me mock me; they hurl insults, shaking their heads: 8 "He trusts in the LORD; let the LORD rescue him. Let him deliver him, since he delights in him."

BIBLE on Calling Psalm 22 9 Yet you brought me out of the womb; you made me trust in you even at my mother's breast. 10 From birth I was cast upon you; from my mother's womb you have been my God. 11 Do not be far from me, for trouble is near and there is no one to help. 12 Many bulls surround me; strong bulls of Bashan encircle me. 13 Roaring lions tearing their prey open their mouths wide against me.

BIBLE on Calling Psalm 22 14 I am poured out like water, and all my bones are out of joint. My heart has turned to wax; it has melted away within me. 15 My strength is dried up like a potsherd, and my tongue sticks to the roof of my mouth; you lay me in the dust of death. 16 Dogs have surrounded me; a band of evil men has encircled me, they have pierced my hands and my feet.

BIBLE on Calling Psalm 22 17 I can count all my bones; people stare and gloat over me. 18 They divide my garments among them and cast lots for my clothing. 19 But you, O LORD, be not far off; O my Strength, come quickly to help me. 20 Deliver my life from the sword, my precious life from the power of the dogs. 21 Rescue me from the mouth of the lions; save me from the horns of the wild oxen.

BIBLE on Calling Psalm 22 22 I will declare your name to my brothers; in the congregation I will praise you. 23 You who fear the LORD, praise him! All you descendants of Jacob, honor him! Revere him, all you descendants of Israel! 24 For he has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help.

BIBLE on Calling Psalm 22 25 From you comes the theme of my praise in the great assembly; before those who fear you will I fulfill my vows. 26 The poor will eat and be satisfied; they who seek the LORD will praise him— may your hearts live forever! 27 All the ends of the earth will remember and turn to the LORD, and all the families of the nations will bow down before him,

BIBLE on Calling Psalm 22 28 for dominion belongs to the LORD and he rules over the nations. 29 All the rich of the earth will feast and worship; all who go down to the dust will kneel before him—those who cannot keep themselves alive. 30 Posterity will serve him; future generations will be told about the Lord. 31 They will proclaim his righteousness to a people yet unborn— for he has done it.

Introduction to Life Calling Individual Reflection Psalm 22 Individual Activity

Life Calling Model built around 3 main components V e s Life Calling P e r s o n a l M i U n i q u e D s g Life Calling Model built around 3 main components

passions experiences strengths U n i q u e D s g F o d a t l V P r M Component 2: Our Life Calling appears differently in each of us because our foundational values are conveyed through our unique design that gives us individuality as a person.

STRENGTHS passions experiences strengths U n i q u e D s g F o d a t l V P r M An assets-based approach to your life that looks at your whole life and offers the greatest potential for success. Component 2: Our Life Calling appears differently in each of us because our foundational values are conveyed through our unique design that gives us individuality as a person.

STRENGTHS passions experiences strengths U n i q u e D s g F o d a t l V P r M An assets-based approach to your life that looks at your whole life and offers the greatest potential for success. School – Career – Relationships – Service – Recreation – and most other areas of your life Component 2: Our Life Calling appears differently in each of us because our foundational values are conveyed through our unique design that gives us individuality as a person.

STRENGTHS DOMAINS Strength in your life that enables you to correctly experience and employ feelings and sensibility.

Adapted with Permission from a Presentation developed by: Emotional Intelligence Adapted with Permission from a Presentation developed by: EI Skills Group www.eiSkills.com

What quadrant is your mood in right now? How do You Feel? Mood Meter 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 High III IV Energy ___ Emotion ___ What quadrant is your mood in right now? ENERGY II I Low 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Unpleasant Negative EMOTION Pleasant Positive

What quadrant is your mood in right now? How do You Feel? Mood Meter 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 High Afraid Surprised III IV Angry Happy Annoyed Pleased Energy ___ Emotion ___ What quadrant is your mood in right now? ENERGY Sad Content II I Dejected Calm Bored Tired Low 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Unpleasant Negative EMOTION Pleasant Positive

Does it matter how you feel? What quadrant is your mood in right now? How do You Feel? Mood Meter 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 High Afraid Surprised III IV Angry Happy Does it matter how you feel? Annoyed Pleased Energy ___ Emotion ___ What quadrant is your mood in right now? ENERGY Sad Content II I Dejected Calm Bored Tired Low 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Unpleasant Negative EMOTION Pleasant Positive

What is Emotional Intelligence? The ability to perceive emotion, integrate emotion to facilitate thought, understand emotions and to regulate emotions to promote personal growth. Introduced in 1990 by psychologists Salovey & Mayer

What is Emotional Intelligence? Individuals who display good emotional intelligence: Know that it is OK to think about emotions because they are an important part of who we are as human beings and Realize that emotions help us to think and make better decisions. A measurable dynamic

Emotional Intelligence Theory 1 Identify 4 2 Manage Use understand 3

Emotional Intelligence Theory 1 4 2 3 Identify Manage Use Indentifying Emotions: The ability to perceive emotions in oneself and others as well as in objects, art, stories, music, and other stimuli. understand 3

Emotional Intelligence Theory 1 4 2 3 Identify Manage Use Using Emotions: The ability to generate, utilize, and feel emotion as necessary to communicate feelings or employ them in other cognitive processes. understand 3

Emotional Intelligence Theory 1 4 2 3 Identify Manage Use Understanding Emotions: The ability to recognize and grasp the meaning of emotional information; to comprehend how emotions combine and progress. understand 3

Emotional Intelligence Theory 1 4 2 3 Identify Manage Use Managing Emotions: The ability to regulate and modulate emotions in oneself and others so as to promote personal understanding and growth. understand 3

How do we see emotional intelligence expressed in others? People with low emotional intelligence Tend to display more negative behavior which can be defined as self-destructive actions as well as violent episodes with others People with high levels of emotional intelligence Have better social relations More positive impact on others Effectively describe their own goals, aims or missions Have better social networks and receive emotional support (J.D. Mayer)

Emotions have meaning and importance Emotions occur because something changed in the environment. Emotions tend to occur automatically and quickly. Emotions change what we attend to and think about. We feel our emotions physically. Emotions motivate us to do something. Serve an adaptive function

Emotional Intelligence Theory 1 Identify Indentifying Emotions: The ability to perceive emotions in oneself and others as well as in objects, art, stories, music, and other stimuli.

Emotions have universal meaning Can you recognize them?

Emotions have universal meaning Happiness Gain something of value

Emotions have universal meaning Happiness Gain something of value Sadness Lose something of value

Emotions have universal meaning Happiness Gain something of value Sadness Lose something of value Surprise Something is happening

Emotions have universal meaning Happiness Gain something of value Sadness Lose something of value Surprise Something is happening Anger Blocked from getting something

Emotions have universal meaning Happiness Gain something of value Sadness Lose something of value Surprise Something is happening Anger Blocked from getting something Fear Possible threat

Emotions have universal meaning Happiness Gain something of value Sadness Lose something of value Surprise Something is happening Anger Blocked from getting something Fear Possible threat Disgust Rules are violated

A Common Emotional Language English Russian French Italian Spanish Afraid боясь Apeuré Impaurito Atemorizado Angry Cердитый en colère Arrabbiato Enfadado Happy Cчастливый Heureux Felice Feliz Sad грустный Triste Surprised Yдивленный Surpris Sorpreso Sorprendido Disgusted Oтвращение Dégoûté Disgustato Asqueado

Can you think of any examples? Causes and display of common emotions can be different among individuals and groups. We tend to follow “Display Rules” Can you think of any examples?

Introduction to Life Calling Identifying Emotions in Others Class Activity

If you have an idea you want to suggest to others and have them accept, what emotional state would you rather have them in? Happiness? Sadness? Surprise? Anger? Fear? Disgust? Why?

If you need to convince people to take action to save themselves from some impending danger, what emotional state would you rather have them in? Happiness? Sadness? Surprise? Anger? Fear? Disgust? Why?

Failure to Correctly Identify Emotions We often don't share feelings information. We may cover up how we feel in order to protect others. We say that everything is fine when it is not. We claim we are not worried when we are. What happens when a person does this?

Why is it important to be able to identify emotions? Identifying emotions in self and others helps us understand more accurately what we and others are experiencing. Recognizing emotions will help us frame discussions with others to be more effective. When we identify emotions, we can express emotions more accurately and therefore improve our communication with others by sending correct information. Recognizing what emotional state we or others are in provides important information that will help us make better decisions.

Questions to ask regarding identifying emotions Do you pay attention to the cues others display in their emotions? Do you pick up on emotional signals from yourself and others? Do you read people accurately? Can you accurately express your own emotions?