PP Lessons Term 3, 2016 Lesson 9, Week 8

Do you remember? Last lesson we looked at Optimistic thinking (helpful thoughts)and looked at ways to be positive. Slide 2 Revise last week’s lesson on Optimistic thinking Optimism is expecting the best out of every situation. ‘Looking on the Bright Side’ means believing that things will work out or improve

This Week WALT: understand that unhelpful thinking makes you feel more upset WILF: recognising different types of ‘unhelpful thoughts’ Slide 3 Read the WALT & WILF

Unhelpful thinking makes you feel more upset The way you think about what happens to you leads to your feelings about it. If you use helpful thinking (Optimistic thoughts) you will have a happier feelings and feel better. Helpful thinking means not jumping to conclusions, checking your facts and not believing the worst pictures. Slide 4 The way you think about what happens to you determines your feelings not the thing itself. If you use helpful thinking (Optimistic thoughts) you will have a happier feelings and feel better. Helpful thinking means not jumping to conclusions, checking your facts and not believing the worst pictures.

Ways we think about things – Permanent or temporary? Permanent – it will always be like this Temporary – it’s this way now, but it can get better Examples: Mary doesn’t get invited to a friend’s party Thoughts: I will always be left out and never get to go to a party or I didn’t get invited to Mary’s party, but I have lots of other friends so there will be lots of parties this year. Mary might invite me next time. Slide 5 Discuss other examples: Event: Being unsuccessful at PSSA trials Thoughts: I will never be able to get into a PSSA team permanent or temporary I didn’t make it this time, but if I try hard to learn the skills in home sport I might make it next year

Ways we think about things – Everything or specific ? Everything (global) – this will affect everything Specific – this is only about this thing Examples: Student gets into trouble for being rude to a teacher Thoughts: All the teachers will hate me now or Mrs Black will be cross with me for a while, but I know that my other teachers really like me. Slide 6 Other examples: I was a bit mean to my friend Katie today Thoughts: She will tell everyone and no one will like me anymore (note that this thought is about everything and also permanent) I will apologise to Katie and other kids will realise I was just feeling a bit bad at that time.

Ways we think about things – Because of me or because of others? Because of me– it is all my fault, I am the cause of the problem Because of others – it’s not all because of my actions Examples: Sam doesn’t want to play with me Thoughts: I am no fun to be with or Sam wanted to play with Joe today for some reason, but he might play with me tomorrow. Slide 7 Event: I missed out on going to the excursion because I forgot my note Thoughts: I am so stupid, I always forget everything. Note that this thought is permanent (always), global (everything) and because of me I should have remembered it but my dog was sick this morning and we had to take him to the vet, so it went out of my head. Usually I remember notes.

Optimistic Thinking When bad things happen It is temporary, so it will get better. It is specific, so I can learn from this. Slide 8 In summary: Optimistic thinking Discuss When bad things happen and the characteristics It is because of other factors, so I can keep trying to make a difference.

Brightside (Optimistic) thinking Versus Unhelpful thoughts (Pessimistic) thinking Slide 9 Read the scenario. Change high school to ‘a new school’

Brightside (Optimistic) thinking Versus Unhelpful thoughts (Pessimistic) thinking Slide 10 Read the scenario, change high school to new school

Brightside (Optimistic) thinking Versus Unhelpful thoughts (Pessimistic) thinking Slide 11 What was the bad time that happened to both Sam and Zac? Which character is positive and expects things to get better? (Zac) Which character is negative and expects things not to change or even get worse? (Sam) Which character thinks they will never make friends? (Sam) Which character thinks other people would find it difficult to make new friends at a new school too? (Zac)

Today we have seen that unhelpful thinking can make you feel more upset looked at our thinking and understand that we can choose if it is temporary or permanent Specific (about one thing) or global (about everything) because of others or because of me Looked at how helpful thoughts (Optimistic thinking) can make us feel better Annie- Tomorrow Slide 12 Seen that unhelpful thinking can make you feel more upset Looked at our thinking and understand that it has these characteristics temporary or permanent specific or global because of others or because of me Looked at the Brightside (Optimistic) thinking Versus Unhelpful thoughts (Pessimistic) thinking Watch- Annie- Tomorrow Discuss that this is an example of temporary. Things may be better tomorrow.