Peer Relationships Ch. 8 pg. 192
Strong Friendships Mutual Respect Caring Honesty Commitment Empathy
Strong Friendships Fairness Shared Interests Acceptance Support Loyalty
What can challenge your friendships? Jealousy Manipulation Pressure to change Negative behavior New friends/significant other New stages of life
Common Methods of Manipulation Type Definition Threatening Promising violence or other negative consequences Blackmail Threatening to reveal some embarrassing or damaging information Mocking/Teasing Making fun of another person in mean or hurtful ways Guilt Trips Making a person feel guilty Bargaining Offering to make a deal Flattery Using excessive praises to influence another person Bribing Promising money or favors
Assertive Refusal Skills State Your Position Suggest Alternatives Stand Your Ground
What is Passive Aggressive Behavior? Dr. Daniel Hall-Flavin from the Mayo Clinic says: “Passive-aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them.” http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/passive-aggressive-behavior/AN01563
Passive Aggressive Behavior There are 5 levels, each progressively more pathological 1 - Temporary Compliance http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3NKWMRpA34
Passive Aggressive Behavior 2 - Intentional Inefficiency http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c5DERppkIG0
Passive Aggressive Behavior 3 – Letting a Problem Escalate http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3NKWMRpA34
Passive Aggressive Behavior 4 – Hidden but Conscious Revenge 5 – Self Deprecation
Peer Pressure – always bad? Positive Negative