Supporting young people with communication difficulties 1

Introducing the ‘communication chain’ … … which we think is more like a chain reaction Each ‘domino’ has to do its bit so that all the following ones can work too – and all in a split second!

Communication chain The first stage is noticing that someone is speaking to you

Communication chain Next you look at the other person and listen to what they are saying ....

Communication chain Then you have to hear the words … … understand what they mean … and put them together to make sentences that make sense

Communication chain Then you look at the other person’s expression and body language …

Communication chain … put all that together to understand what has been said.

Communication chain Then you need to reply … So, you get an idea about what to say …

Communication chain ... decide what’s appropriate depending on who you’re talking to and where you are...

Communication chain … find the right words in your memory … put them together to make sentences

Communication chain … choose the right expression and body language

Communication chain … programme your speech muscles … and speak!

Communication chain Check out the other person’s expression, and you’ve got it! Then you have to keep the conversation going! But many young people have difficulties with different parts of this chain reaction

Communication difficulties can lead to feeling: Frustrated Tired Stupid Lacking in self-worth Withdrawn Angry Panicked Confused

League table of communication difficulties 1 Game rules Over 60 young people with communication difficulties were asked what they found difficult when communicating Decide which of the 10 difficulties got the most votes for being a problem. There are points for positioning difficulties correctly MOST difficult 10 LEAST difficult

Working out what other people are thinking People using big words Cooperating with others to get a job done Asking questions when you’re not sure Talking to different types of people in different ways People not giving you enough time to say something Knowing what you want to say but the words won’t come out People talking too fast Explaining something to a group People saying too many things all at once Show this slide of communication difficulties in random order for audience to decide which ones will rank highest and lowest. 16

10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning Words in italics are quotes from young people justifying why this is a problem for them

9. Cooperating with others to get a job done People don’t take notice of your opinions 10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning

8. Talking to different types of people in different ways I talk to them all in the same way 9. Cooperating with others to get a job done People don’t take notice of your opinions 10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning

8. Talking to different types of people in different ways 7. People using big words I can’t figure what they’re saying and when they explain again they still use big words 8. Talking to different types of people in different ways I talk to them all in the same way 9. Cooperating with others to get a job done People don’t take notice of your opinions 10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning

6. Working out what other people are thinking This can cause arguments 7. People using big words I can’t figure what they’re saying and when they explain again they still use big words 8. Talking to different types of people in different ways I talk to them all in the same way 9. Cooperating with others to get a job done People don’t take notice of your opinions 10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning

5. People not giving you enough time to say something You can’t get the answer in a second 6. Working out what other people are thinking This can cause arguments 7. People using big words I can’t figure what they’re saying and when they explain again they still use big words 8. Talking to different types of people in different ways I talk to them all in the same way 9. Cooperating with others to get a job done People don’t take notice of your opinions 10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning

4. People talking too fast I say yes but don’t have a clue what they’ve just said 5. People not giving you enough time to say something You can’t get the answer in a second 6. Working out what other people are thinking This can cause arguments 7. People using big words I can’t figure what they’re saying and when they explain again they still use big words 8. Talking to different types of people in different ways I talk to them all in the same way 9. Cooperating with others to get a job done People don’t take notice of your opinions 10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning

3. Explaining something to a group I don’t know what to say and no one will know what it means 4. People talking too fast I say yes but don’t have a clue what they’ve just said 5. People not giving you enough time to say something You can’t get the answer in a second 6. Working out what other people are thinking This can cause arguments 7. People using big words I can’t figure what they’re saying and when they explain again they still use big words 8. Talking to different types of people in different ways I talk to them all in the same way 9. Cooperating with others to get a job done People don’t take notice of your opinions 10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning

2. Knowing what you want to say but the words won’t come out It make you feel anxious because the words don’t come out and you can’t breathe 3. Explaining something to a group I don’t know what to say and no one will know what it means 4. People talking too fast I say yes but don’t have a clue what they’ve just said 5. People not giving you enough time to say something You can’t get the answer in a second 6. Working out what other people are thinking This can cause arguments 7. People using big words I can’t figure what they’re saying and when they explain again they still use big words 8. Talking to different types of people in different ways I talk to them all in the same way 9. Cooperating with others to get a job done People don’t take notice of your opinions 10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning

1. People saying too many things all at once If I have too many things in my head I just forget it 2. Knowing what you want to say but the words won’t come out It make you feel anxious because the words don’t come out and you can’t breathe 3. Explaining something to a group I don’t know what to say and no one will know what it means 4. People talking too fast I say yes but don’t have a clue what they’ve just said 5. People not giving you enough time to say something You can’t get the answer in a second 6. Working out what other people are thinking This can cause arguments 7. People using big words I can’t figure what they’re saying and when they explain again they still use big words 8. Talking to different types of people in different ways I talk to them all in the same way 9. Cooperating with others to get a job done People don’t take notice of your opinions 10. Asking questions when you’re not sure Difficult to explain what I’m questioning

‘Too much talk’ This short film shows a young person’s first day in a commercial kitchen. After the film we’ll ask you to: point out what the chef does well suggest what the chef could do better to help the young person

Quiz: Q1 How many new words do children and young people learn during their school years? One per day Three per day Seven per day Ten per day

Quiz: Q1 answer How many new words do children and young people learn during their school years? One per day Three per day Seven per day Ten per day At the age of 4 you probably knew 5,600 words At the age of 10 you probably knew 34,300 words Adults know between 50 – 100,000 words English language has over 1,000,000 words (Bloom 2000; Clark 1993) (Beck, McKeown, and Kucan, 2002).

Quiz: Q2 What percentage of parents thinks current education DOESN’T prepare young people for work? 86% 66% 46% 26%

Quiz: Q2 answer What percentage of parents thinks current education DOESN’T prepare young people for work? 86% 66% 46% 26% Source: City and Guilds, ‘UK Education System Not Fit for Purpose, Parents Say’ (2014).

Quiz: Q3 Nearly all UK employers believe soft skills are important to business success, and over half say skills like communication and teamwork are more important than academic results. But what percentage of employees has never included soft skills on their CV? 94% 74% 54% 34%

Quiz: Q3 answer Nearly all UK employers believe soft skills are important to business success, and over half say skills like communication and teamwork are more important than academic results. But what percentage of employees has never included soft skills on their CV? 94% 74% 54% 34% Source: Development Economics Ltd, January 2015 and YouGov Plc, September 2014.

Quiz: Q4 What percentage of young people officially has Speech, Language and Communication Needs (SLCN)? 10% 8% 6% 2%

Quiz: Q4 answer What percentage of young people officially has Speech, Language and Communication Needs (SLCN)? 10% 8% 6% 2% (Law et al (2000) Provision for children’s speech and language needs in England and Wales: DfES research report 239)

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