6th and 9th Command Thou shall not commit adultery Thou shall not covet thy neighbor’s wife.

Boys Stand up. You will walk around the room and interact with 3 girls by giving them one of the following: Handshake High five Fist Bump

Boys sit down and girls stand up Boys sit down and girls stand up. You will do the same however each of gesture of greeting has been assigned a meaning behind it. Handshake – “Lets start dating immediately” High Five - “Greetings other human person” Fist Bump – “I hope that you burn in the fires of hell for all eternity.”

Sex sends a message Whether someone believes it or intends it, sex communicates a message of total and self giving love. It also implies an openness to life because of the nature of sex. Such a message can only be legitimate within the context of marriage.

Chastity The proper use of sexual powers according to God’s design. Properly ordered love. Virtuous use of sex and sexuality. NOT abstinence (Self enforced restraint from any bodily activity.) Who is called to chastity? EVERYBODY

Expressions of Chastity Married lay person Priest Nun Divorced Lay person Single person Engaged couple Dating Couple

Plan from the Beginning Marriage is not just a human institution but ordained by God. Read Genesis 2 Imagio Dei Male and female Male and female have equal dignity Leave their parents and start their own family One flesh union Procreation is innate Cooperate with God

Marriage Defined The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life and which is ordered by its nature to the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring, has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament between the baptized.

What is Marriage? A sacrament that provides graces. A covenant bond that lasts for a lifetime. Between a man and woman. Sexes are complementary. Sex is an important part of marriage. Getting married implies an openness to life.

Marriage Vows Groom: I, (name), take you, (name), to be my wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life. Bride: I, (name), take you, (name), to be my husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

Characteristics of Marriage A Christian marriage is an image of the love of God, and therefore it has 4 necessary characteristics: FREE – Complete consent to marry this person. Not pressured to. FAITHFUL- Your life – your whole self and your whole future is given (without conditions) to this person and never to anybody else. TOTAL- I give ALL of me, I do not hold back any part. And I give it forever. FRUITFUL- I am open to what may come from our love, both spiritual and physical fruit. Welcoming of children.

The Ends of Marriage Unitive – Permanent and exclusive bonding of male and female. Procreative – Open to life and willing to cooperate with God and his creativity. Implies raising a child as well. *Note a marriage is not creative. Reflects the Trinity “Babies and Bonding” Any deliberate removal of one or both of these or separation of the two is a grave sin.

Properties of Marriage Exclusivity – the total gift of oneself can only be given to a spouse. Indissolubility – Marriage is permanent and stable. Cannot be broken by anyone. (Death ends a marriage)

Sins Against Chasity Lust Masturbation Fornication Adultery Homosexual Acts Pornography Contraception Sterilization Sexual Abuse IVF

Lust Deadly Sin Disordered desire or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. “I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye makes you [w]stumble, tear it out and throw it from you; for it is better for you [x]to lose one of the parts of your body, [y]than for your whole body to be thrown into [z]hell. 30 If your right hand makes you[aa]stumble, cut it off and throw it from you; for it is better for you [ab]to lose one of the parts of your body, [ac]than for your whole body to go into [ad]hell.”  DON’T MESS AROUND WITH SIN

Masturbation Deliberate stimulation of genital organs to drive sexual pleasure. Gravely disordered CCC 2352

Fornication Adultery Cohabitation Sex outside of marriage. Sex with someone who you are not married to or sex with a married person. Cohabitation Living with someone of the opposite sex who is not a relative and you are not married.

Contraception IVF Removes the procreative aspect of marriage Removes the unitive aspect of marriage

Natural Family Planning NOT the “Rhythm Method” Uses signs from the woman’s body to know days of fertility. With the proper knowledge couples can determine if they want to achieve a pregnancy or not.

Pornography “There is no dignity when the human dimension is eliminated from the person. In short, the problem with pornography is not that it shows too much of the person, but that it shows far too little.” -John Paul II Objectifies human persons Perverts the conjugal act, the total self giving act of love is made into a spectacle. Not procreative Can be an addiction Not just videos or images.

Homosexual Acts Having same sex attraction is not a sin. Homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered. They are naturally closed to life. People with same sex attraction are called to chastity. (Just like everybody else)

Ways to practice Chastity Round Robin with your group ways to help you practice and achieve chastity. Prayer and Sacraments Control of imagination (what you put in your head) Practice discipline Modesty Custody of senses Good friendships

Benefits of Chastity Authentic friendship Be “pure of heart” Joyful life True love is possible

Theology of the Body Based upon the series of St. John Paul II’s Wednesday audiences from September 5, 1979 to November 28, 1984. Focus on the human person both body and soul.