Presentation 19 / Monday 14 May 2012 NAspcan 2012 Presentation 19 / Monday 14 May 2012

Violence by women can be prevented – The Demeter Programme Maria Lindroos, Demeter Coordinator (Helsinki) Marjo-Riitta Karhunen, Demeter Coordinator (Tampere) Maria Akatemia ry, Finland Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Programme goals and services Inner script dynamics Maria Akatemia The Demeter Programme Programme goals and services Inner script dynamics Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Maria Akatemia ry / Maria Akademi rf Maria Akatemia is a non-profit organisation for research, development and education Our vision is to promote the wellbeing and human inner growth of individuals and communities The accociation is independent of any government, political ideology or religion. Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

The Demeter Programme The Demeter Programme is a violence prevention model developed by Maria Akatemia in Finland The programme targets women who have abusive tendencies - maternal child abuse and neglect - psychological and physical intimate partner violence Finland’s Slot Machine Association has funded the programme since 2003 Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

What are the goals? To help women to stop violent behavior To break the taboo of violence by women To raise awareness of the origins and dynamics of violence To stop the transmission of violence across family generations To prevent violence towards the self and others in families, communities and societies Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Client services The Demeter preventive model includes three phases: 1. a national telephone helpline 2. one-to-one counselling 3. facilitated peer support groups Client services are free and confidential Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Other services Open discussion forums Training Consultation Supervision Debriefing => prevention of vicarious traumatisation Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

MaSu Project Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen Image © Emilia Nilsson Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Publication The experiential theory generated by the Demeter Programme has been published in the Finnish work titled Tietoisuuden tie alkurakkauteen – väkivalta on ehkäistävissä (Perheentupa & Karhunen (ed.) 2010) Image © Satu-Maaria Mäkipuro Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Theory of inner script dynamics The theory is developed by experiential knowledge critical reflection of cases The theoretical framework is based on a gender specific, family-based and psychodynamic approach existentialism Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Inner script dynamics The inner script refers to the potential quality of interpersonal interactions and ability to bond, which is developed in early attachment - in primal love Experiences of shame and loss in early childhood cause an inner wound and existential emptiness Self-hate, guilt, shame, terror The child develops different kinds of strategies to win acceptance and love Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Being a good little girl Invisible child Possible strategies are: emotional sterilization encapsulated emotions Being a good little girl - Mother’s mother Image © Satu-Maaria Mäkipuro Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

The generation chain Mother/father transfers her/his encapsulated shame, guilt, self-hate and lack of boundaries to the child This inner script forms a generation chain of violence There is a wounded inner child within every man and woman who perpetrates abuse and violence towards the self and/or others Every child who is a victim of abuse, neglect or deprivation is a potential perpetrator of violence Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Summary Violence is a one symptom of inner ill-being The preventive point of view is to understand and to be aware of the origins and dynamics of the violence Women and men need help to stop the transmission of abuse and violence across family generations Awareness of inner script dynamics is the key to human wellbeing Violence can be prevented! Identifying Confronting Preventing Corrective treatment of child abuse and neglect treats only the symptoms Awareness of inner script dynamics is the key to human (society, global jne) wellbeing Women and men need help to stop the transmission of abuse and violence across family generations Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Partnership Maria Akatemia provides lectures, seminars and workshops on the themes of family violence and gender specificity tailor made according to the needs of your clients, work community or conference Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Contact details Visiting addresses: www.maria-akatemia.fi Fredrikinkatu 32 A 12, 00120 Helsinki, Finland Hatanpään valtatie 34 E, 33100 Tampere, Finland tel. +358 9 7562 2250 (office) e-mail: toimisto@maria-akatemia.fi www.maria-akatemia.fi Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Contact details For further information please contact: Katja Ilola, Executive Director +358 40 418 4734 / katja.ilola@maria-akatemia.fi Maria Lindroos, Demeter Coordinator (Helsinki) +358 45 326 9499 / maria.lindroos@maria-akatemia.fi Marjo-Riitta Karhunen, Demeter Coordinator (Tampere) +358 45 118 7811 / marjo-riitta.karhunen@maria-akatemia.fi Tanja Harju, MaSu Project Coordinator +358 45 326 9495 / tanja.harju@maria-akatemia.fi Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen

Thank you! Maria Lindroos & Marjo-Riitta Karhunen