Family Ministry Training: Co-facilitator Co-facilitator WELCOME! Family Ministry Training: unpacking “family” Facilitators: Co-facilitator Co-facilitator family ministry training

Words & Music: Philip A. Porter Used with permission WORKSHOP 2 Opening Worship Hymn 389, Gathered Here Words & Music: Philip A. Porter Used with permission family ministry training

In the mystery of the hour. Gathered here In the mystery of the hour. In one strong body. In the struggle And the power. Spirit, draw near. family ministry training

Introductions I’m ___________ from ______________ where I ________________. After you speak, please place the object you brought that symbolizes “family” onto the center table without comment… family ministry training

An Open-Ended Covenant Try to respect the needs of the others, but check your assumptions; Try to listen to your own needs; Do your best, and be forgiving of others (and yourself!) when someone makes a mistake. family ministry training

family ministry training Building a New Way Unitarian Universalists tend to be individualistic … Our congregations often operate with a silo mentality … Our faith calls us to live into becoming a truly multicultural Association … Non-dominant cultures tend to be communal (i.e., “We”) rather than individualistic (i.e., “I”) … SO … We are called to learn how to develop a “we” culture, both for our own sake and as a model for the world. family ministry training

Families are the heart of congregational life! Building a New Way Families are the heart of congregational life! family ministry training

Congregation as “Family” Group One: Think of as many positive implications as you can of thinking of the congregation as a family. Group Two: Think of as many negative implications as you can of thinking of the congregation as a family. family ministry training

Developmental Models family ministry training

Developmental Models family ministry training

Some Developmental Theories Erik Erickson - Psychosocial Lawrence Kohlberg - Moral James Fowler - Faith Tracey Hurd - Psychosocial/Faith The “UU Identity” Renaissance Module has great resources: http://www.uua.org/careers/re/renaissance/module-resources family ministry training

Systems Thinking Family Roles the hero the authority the peacemaker challenger the clown Family Roles family ministry training

Systems Thinking Congregational Roles the matriarch the trouble maker the historian the institutionalist the rebel the inventor the peace keeper Congregational Roles family ministry training

Systems Thinking family ministry training

Ask yourself: family ministry training What does this idea mean to you? How have you experienced or not experienced families being at the heart of congregational life? In what ways does the congregation with which you are most familiar support and lift up families of all kinds? What feelings and thoughts does this way of thinking about congregational life stir up in you? family ministry training

Share: How have you experienced “families as the heart of congregational life” in the congregation you serve? family ministry training

The way things could be … The way things are … The way things could be … family ministry training

Share… What can you imagine if the congregation you serve fully embraced this vision of family ministry? What would need to happen to get you there? Remember: be clear if you’re talking about “the best of all possible worlds” or the “reality” of what things are. family ministry training

Words & Music: Martha Sandefer Used with permission WORKSHOP 2 Closing Worship Hymn 1017… Building a New Way Words & Music: Martha Sandefer Used with permission family ministry training

We are building a new way. We are building a new way, Feeling stronger ev’ry day, family ministry training

We are working to be free. We are working to be free hate and greed and jealousy. family ministry training

We can feed our ever need. We can feed our every need. Start with love, that is the seed. family ministry training

Peace and freedom is our cry. Without these this world will die. family ministry training